My husband has Alzheimer's and I am his caregiver. Our daughter is a godsend - she stays with him if I have an appointment.
He can be very stubborn, so I'm concerned that a facility will either refuse him or request that I come and get him. On the plus side, he is not physically abusive. He can be verbally abusive.
Both his neurologist and psychologist said I should begin to search for a Memory Care Facility.
He is in total denial about his disease. He is delusional , thinks we are divorced and that he is married to someone else who is coming "next Monday" to take him "home".
Memory Care can refuse if they do not think they can handle a resident. This often happens if someone is violent or has been in the past. They typically want 90 days with no incidents.
As long as you have the legal authority to place him in Memory Care you can.
Discuss with his doctors the delusion, any anxiety that he has and there are medications that can help.
Tell him that his "wife" will meet him in his new home.
As you are married you will need to check on division of assets so that all your funds aren't eaten away in your husband's care. MC is exceptionally expensive. I would see an Elder Law Attorney for your options at once.
I wish you the very best of luck and am so sorry.