My father’s mental health has been rapidly declining and I’ve had to take a more active role as of lately. He has been repeatedly calling me about non issues and will leave many voicemails in a row if I don’t answer.
Sunday morning I awoke to 17 voicemails from him from the previous night in a span of about an hour. They started with him accusing the neighbor of poisoning the food he had brought him, saying that my husband needs to take him to get it out his system, to telling me he wasn’t going to make it and was dying, to then apologizing for calling and telling me ignore his messages.
When I called him, he was fine. He remembered he had called me because he wasn’t feeling well but did not recall all of the details. I told him that if he calls me and I do not answer, he should leave a message and I will call him back when I’m available and if he is having a medical emergency and I don’t answer, he needs to call 911. He was upset and told me he won’t call me anymore to which I told him that’s not what I was telling him.
So this morning he calls to tell me that last night, he called 911 and went to the ER at 1am because he had a cut on his back from a fall 2 weeks prior that was bothering him.
He is lying about the ER.
This seems manipulative to me.
I didn’t think people with dementia could be manipulative or spiteful. I’m trying to learn about this. I appreciate any insight. Thank you