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Can you think of any special circumstances in this person's case? Do you get along with the person's family?
If these are general rules of the place and they are a hardship for you, discuss your special needs with the administrator, and if necessary, get the ombudsman involved. If you work and those restricted hours would mean you couldn't see your friend, you should be able to work out some off-hour times you can come. As general rules, they don't make any sense to me, but if that is what they are, try to negotiate around them.
If other people can visit in the evening and on weekends, why do you think you are being singled out? Do you think there is some basis of discrimination going on here? Are you a minority in that community?
Many hospitals do the same thing. Right now, because of the flu season, visitor hours are limited, no more than 2 visitors in a room, and no one under the age of 16 can go into a patient room.
If you are being appropriate, then I too would wonder what was going on. The nursing home I visited most often let visitors in all day and evening. Give us a little more information about the situation. Is this person being treated well as far as you can tell? Could it be that their family doesn't want you to be in contact?
If you are concerned that something hinky is going on, you could do a little research. Go to a nearby Senior Center and get an appointment with the social worker. He/she should be familiar with the reputation. You can also find out who the nursing home Ombudsman is, and chat with him/her.
Hmmm ...
My mother's nursing home encourages visitors. I've talked to other visitors but mostly I talk to other residents (and my mom, of course). No one has ever suggested I shouldn't.
So I am with Pam in suspecting you are doing something that upsets people. Cut it out. Play nice.
The NH can set non-family visiting hours. They really can't tell you who to talk to or what to say ... free speech and all that, you know ... but they have a responsibility to provide a calm, caring environment for their residents. If you are only talking in a quiet respectful way that does not interfere with a visitor's visit with their loved one, I doubt you'd be in trouble.
So never mind what your rights are ... back off and behave!