I was married to my husband 7 years ago. He is 78 and I am 66. I knew him from church for many years before he asked me out and in church he was always a nice guy with good manners. After being married a year he admitted that he married me for my "mind" and my "money" and didn't ask me out sooner because of my "weight issue." Over the years he has been verbally and emotionally abusive with a little physical abuse thrown in (pushing/shoving). He wanted to sell his house and use that money to build a house "we" could move to in the southwest (we live in the Northeast). He did sell his house, moved into mine, refused to contribute a penny to household costs and built the house he wanted. Now he wants me to set up this new place and move him there where he will live alone. Well, he has been evaluated to need an assisted living level of care and cannot be left alone because of his Alzheimer's. I have been a reluctant caregiver but make sure he is comfortable and well cared for. His physician wants him in assisted living for his good and in many ways for mine. I am having some major health issues. We can afford AL - being very fortunate in that he has two long term care policies. However, he absolutely refuses to go and when I try to discuss it with him he gets irritable, agitated and starts to plot ways to get to his new house by himself. His license was revoked months ago after a road test and he cannot drive but says he will anyway to get there. I have POA and I am his Health Proxy. Is there any way he can be forced to go into assisted living?