Hi again, as some of you know I am planning on retiring in 2021 and moving in to my mothers home to care for her. The problem is however, one of my family members bought the property at home she lives on. They make monthly payments to her. Mom has stated that she wants me to be her caregiver, but this family member has explicitly said they do not want me to do so. I’m not sure why. I have cared for mom before, and helped her and my late dad out when they cared for her parents years ago, so I know what I’m getting into.
Now this same family member is upset because I told Mom something negative they said about her. They now expect me to keep their opinions about Mom secret, while expecting Mom to keep no secrets from any of us and to tell them everything. They think that I am just trying to start trouble and make Mom mad at them when none of this is true. This person is the vindictive Type and has been abusive towards women in the past. They’ve tried to keep it a secret but I have heard stories from some of their victims. This same family member also sees women as inferior. They treat Mom and myself as though we are Unintelligent. This person is an accountant and may have legal knowledge, so I am afraid they may try to find some legal way to stop me from moving in with her.
Even if I do move in, I don’t plan on staying there, but getting my own home and moving Mom in with me. Mom is aware of this and has agreed to it.
Is there anything Mom or I can do to prevent this person from stopping me from moving in? What are her legal rights?