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My brother is delinquent on his taxes and is telling my daughter if he loses his place his only option is to move into my mother’s home. This house is in another state from me. My mom lives with me and has dementia.


My brother refuses to speak to me because I am my mom’s POA. He will not return calls or texts. Mom has paid his taxes until I stopped his financial elder abuse.


I want to sell the house this year since she cannot return to it. I’ve put off selling it in case someone in the family might be able to buy this family home. Thank you for some insight.

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No, not unless invited. Why wait to list it?
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Patticake2 Mar 2019
This home holds so many memories and since I live in another state I have taken my time to clean the house since it held 53 years of accumulation. My dad passed away and then mom showed signs of Dementia so I moved her down to my home. Mom did not need to sell it right away and I did not want to sell it and then find out a family member could buy it.
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You are POA? That is a responsibility and a business relationship. Try to remove the emotion.
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No.

Are you able to get the locks changed to keep him out, because it is far easier to keep him out then to get him out.

Good luck, what a crummy situation for sure.
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If your POA was written correctly, you get to make all the decisions regarding property, etc. If you don’t want your brother living there, tell him no.
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I agree with "isthisrealyreal", change the locks. As POA you have the right to keep him out. Its Moms home not his. If he breaks in, then call the cops. Son or not, he is trespassing and make sure you have signs posted saying this.

Be aware that if you think Mom will need Medicaid in the next 5 yrs, the house has to sell at market value. Family or not.

My Moms house has a tax lien as of Oct 2018. It was explained to me that in the state of NJ a lien holder cannot foreclose for at least 2 yrs from date of first lean. It could take could take longer than that. Which in my area it does. So brother may have a while in his state before this happens. In the meantime, get the house cleaned out and sold. You are probably spending Moms money for upkeep that could eventually be used for her care.
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