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My mother will not move from her home to a nursing home out of state near family.

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mnbwca, first of all your mother's funds if she has any need to be used to pay for her care. When and if funds run out then she applies for Medicaid or if family so chooses can pay the bill.

I hope you did not make the mistake of taking responsibility for her bills in memory care. You can be held to that. And evil bro may be that as a way to preserve his inheritance.

Sorry to be so negative but some people will go to great lengths to preserve family money for their own use.
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Does the sibling with durable power of attorney get to decide where the mom lives, or the one with health care poa? If , for instance, i choose to put my mom in a memory care closer to us, will my evil bro as durable poa have to pay the bill for it? or can he refuse?
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Hi everyone first that you for your thoughtful posts. I am her caregiver
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Does she have a diagnosis of dementia from a physician?
Are you her caregiver or are you related to this woman?
Are you posting on behalf of the son who wishes to medicate and move her?
Does the son have durable power of attorney for her?
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I also misread, and am still a bit confused. Ocean, your question states that this YOUR mother, but one of your posts indicates it's someone else's mother, for whom you are a professional (i.e., paid, unrelated) caregiver.

My first thought was of a federal offense, of "taking a person across a state line", i.e., kidnapping. Not to be overly dramatic, medicating someone against her will and removing her to another state I believe is a definition of kidnapping, or some level of that action. I don't think it's custodial interference unless the son has legal authority to care for her (see last paragraph of my post re guardianship proceedings).

I can see that the son is in a difficult situation, but clearly does not understand the devastating effect of removing her from an environment to a new environment, not only against her will but apparently with no care lined except for a tentative facility placement.

Who or what is this "Elder Care Rep" in your state? Is this a governmental body, an agency, someone who's been contracted to work with the son? Have you spoken with them, or has any of this woman's doctors spoken with them to advise against the feasibility of removing her?

BTW, I don't know what a PP 505 is so I googled it and learned it's a physician's report regarding a guardianship hearing. Is the son pursuing guardianship? Have you seen the PP 505 and does it support his guardianship and removal to his state?

What plans has the son made? Will he just put her in a facility, or do he and his mother have family in the area?
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I'm so sorry, Wildocean, I managed somehow to misread the information on your profile - d'oh!

As your client is still in her own home but increasingly at risk of injury, it makes it easier to understand the son's anxieties (as you clearly do). It sounds as if you are handling her just right, finding that difficult balance between helping and intruding. But evidently the time is fast approaching where your client's mental capacity will become the key issue, her son will be able to make the difficult decisions for her, and then at least you'll be a familiar and reassuring presence during the handover phase. Very hard situation, she's lucky to have somebody giving it so much careful thought. Please let us know how you're getting on.
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Oops I hit the "Post Answer" before I was finished.
She is letting me stay longer as time goes by. But it's a long process. And yes she fell an fractured a rib last wk. Also her Son is working with the elder Care rep. In this state.
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I am the caregiver for her. She's been in her hme for 50+ yrs. Which she built with her husband, (who has passed away). She lives by herself.
2 ...PP 505's have been given .
She has middle stage Dementia. She doesn't want anyone in her hme. But, four wks in, I've been able to go over between 1 to 3 hrs most days. The sibling feels she needs to be in a nursing home and near him. He is investigating how to transport her to his state. Knowingly she will not go of her own free will. I am stressd over this. Medicating an elderly person with Progressive Dementia is not the solution in my opinion. I know she needs help with meals daily, along with the basics. Like I said She is He has contacted
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Thank you all for responding to my inquiry.
Contrymouse....there is a back story. But since this is a public forum I want to be very careful and respectful to get. Thank you though for ur time.
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Wildocean is the mother's professional caregiver. The mother is in a nursing home, and the son wants to move her from her current setting to one which is more convenient to him. Using medications to keep her quiet meanwhile.

Hmm. The question is one of the mother's best interests. And while one can sympathise with the son, who would no doubt like to be able more easily to keep an eye on her, it isn't necessarily true that she would benefit overall from the move.

Wildocean, if you or your managers are acting as your client's advocate here, have you made any assessment of the pros and cons of this idea from your client's point of view?

For example: if she has been in this NH for a very long time and has developed good relationships with the staff, or is frequently visited by people she's known forever, while the son has been nowhere to be seen, there could be a case made for keeping her where she is.

Could you fill us in on the background to your question?
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