Can I tell the hospital to send her to hospice?

She decided on the operation. But i am so drained from her this past few months i am not going up there for the operation. This will be the first time I wasnt at the hospital for an operation or just hospitaization. She has has four or five over the last eight years. But I don't care anymore. I have not much left emotionally to give her. At least not now.

If she is rational, her wishes are what are important. Sometimes we just have to wait when it comes to older people. This is a huge decision for her. Maybe a trusted friend or family member can help her think it through without pressure.

You must be talking about someone else. She never revoked my PO A. It is a medical PO A.

You said before that she had revoked your POA. And unless it is a DPOA with medical, that is durable, unless she's incompetent you don't have that right.

Duplicate question. Barbara, it's hard but you cannot make a decision without medical POA.