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My mother, who is 78, has shown signs of memory problems this whole year and 2 relatives share POA. They live with her at her home. Recently I asked something pertaining to her memory and found out they haven't taken her to get it checked out after all this time. They've all known she remembers little in present tense but have done nothing about it for her. I've offered to bring her to appts and do anything they need for my mother so there's no excuse.
They keep her away from family and her friends.
What are my rights as her daughter? I have no money and cannot afford a lawyer.

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Your mother gave the POA to those she chose to serve as her POA. Whether she at this point goes to MD or not it is unlikely to change any dementia diagnosis. If you feel she is being neglected you can ask for a wellness check, but the truth is that causing problems may get you shut out, and is unlikely to help you be of help. Offer help. Offer to drive Mom where she needs to go. Offer to help with cooking, cleaning, and giving respite to her caregivers. Your rights as a daughter do not honestly count if your mother has chosen others to watch over her. A fight for guardianship will end with you having guardianship, and that is a tremendous job, or with guardianship removed from everyone and given to a court appointed fiduciary, which means that this wishes of Mom, her family and her caregivers will not count for much. Offer help. Become a valued and loved part of the care team. This is what you owe to your Mom in loving care. Do not make her life an ongoing drama full of pain at this point in her life. Good luck to you. I wish you all the very best.
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If you believe that your nephew and his wife are using your mother's money to enrich themselves, there are official channels for reporting financial abuse which are open to anyone.

Your mother presumably gave her grandson and his wife POA for the practical reason that she lives with them and they are responsible for her care, no? What makes you believe there was coercion involved?

In any case, you cannot "sue" to have POA removed from your nephew and given to you. POA can ONLY be given by the person for whom it is exercised (your mother, in this case).

Where power of attorney breaks down but the person still needs someone to act for her, the next step is guardianship. Applying for guardianship is an expensive legal process that must be done through the courts.

You seem to be basing quite a lot of fears on their failure to attend a memory check; and yet there could be all sorts of reasons for that failure - not least that your mother may be refusing to attend. These tests can be lengthy and if the patient is uncooperative they are likely to be a complete waste of everybody's morning.

Have you offered to organise an appointment and take your mother yourself? Has your mother authorised you to have access to her medical information under HIPAA rules?
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Yes I have offered to take her to appts and whatever else they may need.
I am fully concerned with my mother's health. You just don't know these people.
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You don’t sue over POA. If your mom is still competent she can revoke their POA and assign a new POA. As a daughter you have no rights and this isn’t about you or your rights. It’s about your mother and her rights. If she’s not mentally competent then you can pursue guardianship from the courts just make sure you are well informed of what your duties and obligations will be.
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How do I find out if they also have guardianship?
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