I am an only child with a mother who is nearing the end of her journey with dementia. She and my stepfather have been married 30+ years. He has moderate dementia.
She has issues with aspiration, incontinence, no longer speaks, doesn't recognize family, has skin breakdown and is a brittle diabetic. Pops is insisting that she will get better because the cure is around the corner.
Mom's circulation is so bad that the breakdown won't heal. Hospice has been recommended, but Pops says no that is murder. He does not have her mpoa.
The head of Medical Management says he has all right of decision making even if he is incompetent because I don't have his mpoa or hers. She seems to be saying even if incompetent he has the right to sign Mom's consents and make her healthcare decisions.
Is she right?