I'm the official caregiver and am planning on moving out of state within 4 months. Want to take her as well. So she would move in with us now and make her move with us when we go out of state. Need to advise. Thanks
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Any transition will be hard on her, thus hard on you. The fewer changes the better. I'd get medical help for her now to help with the transition.
Yes, I know. Trickery doesn't feel right. But when you know it's doctor's orders and she won't cooperate because of dementia, sometimes you have to stoop to this kind of thing.
You could check with the pharmacist and see if the tablet can be ground up (some can't as they are time released). If you can, maybe you can get it into some food.
Anyone else have ideas?
But you will have problems with her, regardless, as she isn't going to want to do anything she should. You do have your hands full. If it gets too bad, you'll have to have social services look into it. Hopefully, you can find some doctor she will listen to, but she sounds very stubborn.
1. Re colonoscopy. Why at 90 plus? I just had my last one at age 81. Next was due in 5 years, and what if they found a polop? Takes 5 or 10 years to grow. Will I be alive then? Checked with the doctor. He kind of started. I could see him check my age, do the math and agree with me.
2. Driving. please, Call the State police or licensing agency. They will call her in. Some places there are agencies who will do the evaluation. Have you watched the HBO tapes on Alzheimer's? Find them on line either through HBO or Alzheimer's sites.
Do you want to feel responsible for her killinng or seriously injuring another person?
3. Aricept. Sound have been started years ago. Find out at her stage, what exactly is it expected to accomplish. Then yes, if you judge it's needed. It's a very tiny pill, easy to call whatever and get her to take it. Watch for side effects. Diarrhea is one that got me. A lactose free diet, with acidopholous in the morning and yogurt with evening meds has eliminated the problem. I also had insomnia, but another med I was given for something else took care of that. There are some natural remedies at the health food store. Check with her doctor first.
4. Assisted Living. There are some wonderful ones and they do allow her to take a roomful of her things. The socialization, physical and mental stimulation that should be available are very important components of a good regime. Will it provide a Meditterean diet? Another important component.
Since any move will be traumatic at her stage, you might want to find a facility where you are moving. Any other sibs beside your brother or close relatives involved? Can you conference, with or without a mediating soical worker, and come to some decisions.
5. Combativenss. yes, meds can help. Have you read The 36 Hour Day? It has so many helpful hints on that subject.
6. Unless your mom has been declared incompetent, I don't think you can force her to do anyything. Has she given her Medical or Legal Power of Attorney to any one? I did that when I was first diagnosed. It hasn't been needed, but it's in place for when ever it's needed.
Good luck. You dod not face an easy task. Try the Alzheimer's Assoc. Boards for help and support.