My wife’s step father had a brain aneurysm 25 years ago and cannot be left alone. My mother in laws’s sole job is caring for him but is now hospitalized and looking at a long recovery from surgery. We are taking him in to care for him for the next few months. He has an estate set up by his now deceased sister that gives him money each month. My wife and I both work. The money from the estate does not cover the needed amount for an in home caregiver even though we think there is money in the estate to do so. Neither one of us can take time off. For now my sister in law is driving 4 hours to cover the days that we cannot be home which is not going to be sustainable. We are being met with resistance from the estate attorney for more funds to have a full time caregiver. I know nothing about estates. How do I go about getting more funds from the estate?
You do not need quotes for a nurse. Medicare will pay for 8 weeks. And do not get POA, then your screwed here.
Michigan is different.
I think that you should see an elder law attorney. There is too much here unknown if you are planning to take on the care of two elders who will get more and more ill, while you have children and jobs. Please do see a Lawyer. I think those of us here have just ended up in a pile of confusion over exactly what is happening here, and exactly what assets there are, and exactly who is in charge of them. Along with Cali I am extremely worried for your children. When you move in this manner to make huge moves like moving elders in it is very very difficult to undo. At the very least you need a plan of care, who cares for whom and how much they are paid; these contracts need to be in black and white and they need to have meticulous record keeping ongoing.
I wish you luck.
Anyway, there is a place called Lakeshore Legal Services throughout Michigan. They do quite a bit of pro bono elder law, consultations and you can should give them a call.
What is going to happen when eventually your MIL needs hands-on care too... are you intending to take her in as well? Please think this through very carefully.
What does the Attorney suggest as the reason that the "Estate" will not pay for his care? What does the Attorney suggest be done with Dad; do they want him to be put into care?
Generally it is the POA who decides what care and where given if Dad cannot act in his own behalf. I am not understanding this "division" between decider on Dad's care and decider on whether or not the Estate will pay for it.