I really need your advice. I am 2 months pregnant with my first child, I am 34 and felt in my heart it was the right time for me. I have been taking care of my mom for years, and these last 2 we live with my now husband and his son who is 9 years old. I have a full time job on top of this, luckily work at home, somedays are harder than others as you know, I do my best. There is help that comes in 2 hours a day for her bathing and light housekeeping. My mom is relatively young, 66, with severe osteoporosis and lung issues. She is completely bed bound unless we get her in the chair ourselves. She is mentally 100% just can't ambulate and requires diaper changes, food brought to her, etc... Well, I am now pregnant and terrified I won't be able to handle it all. I thought I could until my husband came to me with his concerns of "what if's." He has even suggested coming up with a plan B for mom if (or should I say when) I can no longer care for her because I won't have the "time or energy". When I tell him I think I can pull this off he's mentioned that "we shouldn't have to" or "it shouldn't be this hard for me." I honestly feel like my heart is breaking when I think of a nursing home for mom, this isn't what was mentioned prior to me getting pregnant. Sure, we talked about how hard it was going to be, but if I wasn't up for the challenge I likely wouldn't be a caregiver to begin with. Is caregiving now unfair to him now with a baby? Could anyone relate to this and tell me if I am being underestimated? I really need some practical and compassionate advice. Thank you all.