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Also, I'm sorry that he's yelling at you. That's always tough. Remember, you're doing a wonderful thing by helping him!!
Is there a male in the family who could assist him with bathing or cleaning up? If the doctor orders a home health aide, it probably should be a man.
I do understand your concern, as I deal with it myself fairly often. People who have no idea how to care for elders don't realize how difficult it is, and think that life should be a lot more smooth with a daughter or other family involved.
If you have hired care staff coming in, they could report neglect if they felt it existed. So could EMS, and even nosy, meddling neighbors.
I think though that the focus should be on keeping clean rather than bathing. Sponge baths, no rise shampoo and no rinse bathing are a lot easier on older folks.
I know you are trying to do your best for your father. When my father started to refuse bath it was because he had heart failure and he was dying. I didn't understand this and thought he was just being a grumpy old man.
Are you able to talk to his doctor and review his medical or mental condition? Maybe just use giant bath wipes for now or give him a sponge bath.
I know how I feel without a bath. When I brought my dad home from rehab after the stroke, I tried to give him at least two showers a week, sometimes more if he needed it.
Try to talk to him and see if there is a deeper reason.