Can I be a permanent caregiver for my 97 year old grandmother, disable mom/dad and receive financial support from the state? If so, does anyone know how and where I begin?

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Somebody has to be on Medicaid for the state to pay for anything.
Even if all three (grandmother and parents) are on Medicaid and there is a family caregiver compensation program in your state, you will only get a small set amount. It will make no difference if you're caring for three people the dollar amount will be the same as if it was one.
I understand your grandmother is 97 years old and would need care at that age. In what way are both of your parents disabled? Medicaid does not approve in-home caregiving services for everyone collecting a disability check. For example, someone who is collecting an SSI check because they're an addit or alcoholic is not going to get free in-home caregivers paid by Medicaid anymore. Or if they're collecting for depression or some other similar condition. These "disabilities" do not get the services from Medicaid that they used to. Medicaid has changed who can get paid caregivers and for what conditions, and rightly so.
Take it from me. I was an in-home caregiver for 25 years. Don't try to take on caregiving for three people while also living with them. It will destroy you.
No amount of money is worth it. Please, don't do it.
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Reply to BurntCaregiver

Leeceeb, the vast majority of family caregivers do not get paid to care for their parents and/or grandparent, unless those family members can pay you themselves.

Medicaid [which is different from Medicare] may have a program in your State, but the pay would be limited, not enough to live on.

This plan may sound great at this point in time, but before you know it, you would be doing the work of 3 full-time caregivers each day. And what if all 3 were tugging at your apron at the same time?
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Reply to freqflyer

Well Charlie's loving but care-worn Mother in Charlie & the Chocolate Factory worked full-time & cared for 4 bed-ridden elders.. so why not?

Nurses have more that this quota of patient load per shift.


Charlie's story was a fantasy.
Nurses work within a team of staff.

If you want to care for each relative, do so. Be their advocate, help obtain what they need, set up their care team.

But if you want to be a lone-caregiver, have a good think. WHY do you want to do this?. Then really get to the WHY underneath that.

Don't tell me 'to be a good girl' or 'because I should'. Actually why?
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Reply to Beatty
BurntCaregiver Aug 4, 2022
Nurses also have a staff of nurse's assistants (CNA's).
No one on earth can solely provide home care for three people and do it well. You’d need lots of help and how would you pay the help? Who would stay with the others while you take one of them to the doctor’s? There’s a lot of that. Who will shop for all of you? How will you keep the place clean enough?
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Reply to Fawnby

You can but you won't have a life. At all. And won't make enough money from the state to live on and save for your own future and care, should you live long enough to need it.
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Reply to Geaton777

I don't know about the payment part but I have to ask: WHY would you want to care for these 3 people?? It sounds like it would be WAY too much for one person.
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Reply to againx100

California and other states has an in home supportive services program. Here it pays roughly 200 month. That’s not gonna be enough to live on.
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