She is 85, lives alone for 2 plus years since Dad died. I have a Medical and Durable Power of Attorney. She refuses to take medication for severe diabetes and a urinary tract infection. Personal hygiene is close to non-existent. Wets her pants 12 or more times a day and refuses to wear Depends. Refuses to drink water, we limit diet cokes, she does not drive (but has two cars in driveway). Can I legally drag her into an emergency room? We do 90% of her laundry and dishes and 100% of housecleaning. She gets verbally abusive when we encourage her to wear Depends (that we have purchased). Our only other choice would be to pretty much leave her alone beyond delivering groceries, doing laundry, etc. Quite frankly we are embarassed as people might think we are neglecting her. Her main personality all her life has been "NOBODY is going to tell her what to do!" She will not listen to our begging, pleading, bribing, etc.