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My husband is in VA nursing home in final stages of Parkinsons n is paralyzed and dying. His girlfriend has his poa abd gas forged his signature on form denying n y visits. He us afraid of this woman. Sges committed so n any crimes against ne sbd my husbandI just want to hold him, just say good bye. Someone help me and please realize sge has cut off mt support She has abused the system. I need help

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I don’t understand, did she forge his signature?
Did she forge before POA was activated or what?
Otherwise if something was just sign it will have his name but not signature and then hers as POA.
Are you sure she has POA at all? Did you see it?
Does your husband have dementia?
If he is afraid of him why is she his POA?
As you stated previously they were business partners but that did not entitled her to your house, bank account.
Business is separate entity.
But if she committed so many crimes why not call police or APS?
And are you still married?
Maybe answering or saying what really happen will allow us some clarity.
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I can only guess that this is actually your EX-husband, since his "girlfriend" is his POA and not you, right?
So technically you don't have any rights to see him anymore, so perhaps it best that you just let it go.
And yes a POA can legally sign on behalf of the person for whom they are POA for, so there is nothing illegal going on there.
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You have posted this same issue twice this past year:

https://www.agingcare.com/questions/girlfriend-took-over-my-husbands-life-492045.htm

https://www.agingcare.com/questions/girlfriend-took-over-my-husbands-life-492045.htm

What actions have you taken since making these other posts?
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A POA is not "forging" a signature but legally signing on behalf of the person she's POA for.
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I will admit, I read this earlier and decided to let others comment before I responded. Without further clarification - this is just a mess.

While there are certainly people with dementia who forget their spouse and sometimes end up with a new "friend" because of it-by that stage, it's too late for them to name their new "friend" POA.

If GF is his legal POA, that is clearly defined that he named her as such with legal assistance and notarization, implying competency at that time. It would help us a lot to know why his GF would be named POA instead of you? Are you separated and divorcing? Are you already divorced? Was there some special situation that required you to remain married, but he was allowed to step outside of the marriage?

You say she has committed so many crimes against you and your husband. I'm confused there. If she is his POA, she would have been named as such to legally represent his interests and needs when he was unable to do so any longer.

I also don't understand what you mean by "she has cut off my support".

The state of the marriage would help us direct our advice.
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Boy is this difficult to read and understand.....
Are you still legally married to this person?
If so see an Attorney ASAP
If not and you are worried about benefits that you might lose as long as you have not remarried and your husband (ex?) has not remarried you can still claim VA benefits. And if you have not remarried you can claim Social Security benefits
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Evamar Aug 20, 2025
Grandma 1954
I sort of understood but cannot be sure. I wish people state facts.
Married, divorced, separated?
Was POA activated and she clearly put his name and signed under his name as required. Or did she forge his signature?
As I stated below my H writing is horrible, now he signs documents and it does not look at all like his signature. If I had to prove it would be hard. Before it clearly showed his name. Even signing something 2-3 times on the same document it looked different yet it was acceptable.
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Depending on type of POA she can sign documents. But clearly stating her name and who she signs for. Is she forging his signature? Does he have dementia? Are you still married but separated? You refer to him as husband, not ex?
If he was fairly OK at the time of signing that document I can tell you it will be hard to prove. My husband has Parkinson’s no dementia so he signs documents, but his signature does not look anything like his name or what it used to be, in fact first sign of PD was problem with that in around 2011 when GP suspected Parkinson’s.
If you can prove he was unable to sign go for it.
Sadly, with PD end stage sudden death can occur then again it could be months. Trajectory is hard to establish.
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His GF is in control. She is not forging his signature, as POA she is allowed to. She is his representative who he assigned. I have signed for my Mom two ways, Her name and under that my name with POA at the end. The other way, just my name with POA.

She can keep you away saying you upset him. If he is competent, what he wants overrides her POA. If he wants to see you, it should be allowed, IMO. Some facilities go with what the POA says. A lawyer maybe your only recourse.

Her POA is no more once he passes. She must be his Executor of the Will to do anything. No Will, if your still married to him you and your children get his assets. If not still married your kids get the assets.
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Geaton777 Aug 20, 2025
JoAnn, I think this is another "Shirley"... remember her? and how many times she posted the same question, over and over...?
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