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My grandfather and grandmother have been married for 45 years and had no children together. This means we have grandfathers side of the family and grandmothers side of the family (from previous marriages). I'm on the grandmother's side of the family.

My grandfathers side of the family has taken him and won't let us speak to him. They say they have power of attorney (as if that gives them legal right to forcibly remove him from the house). We spoke to my grandfather the day before he left and he adamantly said that he did not want to leave. His side of the family told us that they were just taking him for a few days but now won't let us nor his wife have any contact with him nor do we know where they took him.

Is this legal? What should we do?

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In agreement with Churchmouse.

Can I now ask, what would be stopping you from taking action right now, not waiting...?
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"Forcibly" is a strong word. Can you explain what happened? If this were a mystery movie, would the FBI be called in to investigate a kidnapping?
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Correction: An attorney would not 'issue' a writ of habeas corpus.
The court, usually in a criminal case, issues the writ.
Prior to the current situation, they were living together?
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Thank you for filling in more details. So who has the POA? Hard to imagine your GF would give it to someone who has long term hated his wife.
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Anytime family is concerned about the welfare of a family member:
If APS does not help, see an attorney who will issue a writ of habeas corpus-which means to produce the body (yes, also a live body). Those holding the family member must produce the body before the court who will determine GF's welfare and any requirements for custody. imo. Family law, elder law...get help...

There is always more to the story, called the back story.

Don't get mired in details, or stopped in your tracks by "he said, she said" family issues. Your grandparents are vulnerable and married, each should have the right to know the welfare of the other. At their age, don't wait to find out or help your grandmother make contact.
There are also very urgent financial issues, don't you think?

Have your grandmother make the police report.
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97yearoldmom, They don't have caretakers as GM is still competent (as far as we know) she does have memory issues and are taking her to the doctors to see whats going on there. 2. No one has moved in with them, my GM still drives (GF hasn't in a long time due to alcoholism) 3. My cousins (mom's sister family AKA GF family) do know where he is, at her biological sisters (who hates my GM and vice versa), but she has hated the fact that GF married GM and has never wanted to get to know our family so that's why we don't know where he (or the biological sister's house) is (despite the fact that he married my GM since his previous wife died). I'll post an update when more happens.
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How old are your grandparents? Did they have caretakers in the home? Do you think the GF family is concerned about his well being? Are GMs family members moving in and making GFs family nervous about his well being? I agree that the police should be notified. After 45 years, surely the address of GF family is known? Also area on aging could be notified. Perhaps they have resources to assess the situation. Let us know what happens.
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Kidnapping, call APS, Adult Protective Services.
This happens and all the other family members are left wondering, "What happened"?
The families get divided.
Each spouse is vulnerable to elder abuse when spirited away by the step-families.
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It sounds to me as if your grandmother should go to the police and ask them to investigate what she believes to be the abduction of her husband, a vulnerable elder. But I am not in the US, and others will know better than I do. The key thing is that the priority relationship here is that of husband and wife, i.e. your grandfather and grandmother.
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