Can my Dad remove my Mom from long term care without proving he is able to care for her?

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My mother has a massive stroke in September 2014, and has been in a nursing home straight after a month in the hospital, she is completely blind and paralyzed on her entire left side, she is bed ridden and is unable to do anything for herself, Dad has always made very rash spur of the moments decisions , and says he is taking her home no matter what any of us have to say about it. The thing is none of us are capable of being with her 24/7 as we (her children) have small children of our own, i know dad isn't able to care for her by himself and this has me so worried .

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Dad is probably worried that he will lose everything if she stays there. He needs a sit down with the financial advisor at the nursing home who can help him with a Medicaid application for Mom. Address that bigger issue, but I agree you should look into Guardianship if he is adamant about taking her out of there.
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Someone will need to get guardianship (POA if mom were capable, but she's beyond that), and that person has to ban her removal from the nursing home by anyone. It's best for the guardian to be firm and rely on "the doctor said so and that's what we are doing" if ever confronted.

But the staff will keep mom there if given the orders. They will be the bad guys, and say, "orders are to keep her here at all times." They may say to take it up with the guardian, but dad may forget what they said by then.

I agree it's in your mom's best interest to stay there. Is there an option for dad to go there too?
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thanks i am just at my wits end on what i should do and where i should go from here, any way we go about it Dad is going to be defensive if it isnt going the way he likes, i i know its his wife of 40ish years and he hates to see her in there but i truly its her best option
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Talk to the discharge nurse at the facility and explain what's going on. I'm thinking he/she will get Adult Protective Services involved. Be very clear to staff that she is absolutely not to be released to your dad.
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