My Bro has POA over Dad, dumped him in retirement apts 100 miles away, took his car doesn't visit him. Can Dad move away to be by family?

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Nothing more to add. Dad was told by his wives doctor he was not sick therefore couldn't be put in the long term hospital, so he was put in a town 100+ miles away from his bro, 2000 miles away from his other child. I want him to move here in another retirement community near by

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Hey, don't encourage them! They do NOT need a TV show! :)
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I changed the sexes of my parents, not thinking this clearly out, in the worry my sibs may find out I wrote and made things hard for my Mom, It is my Dad who died of Alz, and my Mom who wants to move back here where she raised her children. There is a retirement community 3 blocks away I can walk too. My sib with POA put my ma in one of the most desolate places I have ever seen on Google Satillite, it is very small isolated and even though she has been telling them for months she wants to move here they keep talking her out of it. She is afraid of them. She can drive, her licence is valid for another 5 years. She don't drink, take medication and drove every day to see my Dad before he died. Since she wanted to come here they moved her, without telling me to this isolated place where I found here. She isn't lowjacked so I told her go get on the train, and come here. It is a clear shot. She is confused somewhat, but she showers daily, can find her way to her new room, and the dining room and the laundry room and has made a couple of friends. Her Mother died when she was 4, she was alone until she met dad at 17, and they were married for 73 years when he died. He was put in a Alz. Ward and she was left alone in a place in a town not her own. Now they moved her over 100 miles away, took her car, have not been to visit them and she wants to come back here where I live and live in a retirement community here. She isn't low income, she can afford what she wants and if she can't get in to close by me I am willing to move close to a place where she chooses because I love her and want to see her daily. We two are the only two in our family who are alone. All the rest have someone. I cannot believe and my mother can't believe they just moved her there without her permission, and they still haven't told me they moved her. She called my sib and said she wanted her car back and wants to come here and they argued about it and Ma hung up on her. They haven't called back, returned the car, or visited her since putting her in there 2 weeks ago. I may have early Alz onset, I am disabled, however I have good doctors here and I am more than capable of walking a few blocks to spend the day with my mom if she isn't off doing senior things with the other awake and aware seniors. She deserves to be loved. She was always surrounded by people who loved her until Daddy died and I want her here and she wants to be here. SHe doesn't recall any guardianship nor consetavor ship hearings, the only shrink my sister sent her to to get her committed like daddy said there is nothing wrong with your mother, she drive a car and takes care of herself and is competent. Should be cased closed I think.
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Glad, POAs Run Amok sounds like a great concept for a reality show!
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Baba, if only all situations POA's realized that their job is to conduct the business of the person granting it as they would do.Too often there are stories of POA's that run amok. May have to consider that the title for the book I want to write.

If dad is not happy have him think about changing his POA. There must be some family in the area he is,isn't there? I know it makes it nearly i!possible to see him. Find a specific time to travel to spend time with him a couple of times a year, if at all possible.
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Unless Dad has been declared incompetent by a court, he has all the rights any adult has. He can decide where to live.

What are your Dad's impairments? Does he need some level of care?
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Your father can change his power of attorney if he is still competent. In addition, someone with power of attorney cannot determine where a person lives; poa means that you carry of the wishes of the person who granted you poa. Does your dad want to move? Who is saying he can't ?
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