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I often see the caregiver as the DPOA, however it can be a problem; it depends on the circumstances. I would make sure to keep financial matters separate so that if anything is questioned you can show the back-up to justify the expense. Keeping things separate is always a good idea in the event anyone questions the financial end.
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I have been Mom's caregiver for 5 yrs, she lives in my home. I am not paid, she pays for nothing other than her own medicine and copays and whatever she wants plus her monthly bills. I have four brothers and mom has made no one DPOA. Doesn't understand why she might need one and I don't know how to approach the subject because she too things I am trustworthy enough to care for her but not enough to be her DPOA. So Frustrating. How do I get her to do this?
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Hi there glad....I have NEVER heard of a caregiver not being. dpoa. I have been assigned everything. Dpoa. Caregiver and extretress and we had 3 different eldercare atty that got paid a lot to make the documents and no one saidbthis
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If there is a family squabble, bring in an impartial third party as a geriatric care manager before this explodes. Ours has exploded and is much more than a squabble, I am caregiver, sibling is DPOA, there are assets, sibling is in conflict of interest position, she has not been carrying out mom's wishes.
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I disagree if you are the caregiver you sb the Dpoa. Afterall you are the one who is constantly there. What if an emgergency should arrive and there is no time to get your brother. Just keep good records if u need to use the $. I love this you are trusted to take care of her life but not with the assets???? Or both of you be dpoa. But you sb listed first in an either or situation. But he should Not ve dPOA. Alone
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Yes. The caregiver is often the DPOA.
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If it is family, fine. But if the caregiver is a paid HHA or HCA, it can create a lot of conflict of interest. The DPOA should never be in a position to write checks to herself or reimburse herself for anything. Let's say Mom pays you for transportation; that check should be signed by your brother. If she pays for half the groceries? The check to you for half should be signed by your brother. Avoid any situation that could put you in a questionable position.
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Yes, I am DPOA for my mom who lives with me and I'm her caregiver...
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I share DPOA with my brother and I am Mom's caregiver. In my opinion the one caring should be DPOA.
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