My brother has a PoA over my mother, who was diagnosed with late onset of Alzheimer's prior to the PoA being signed by her. He also would not let me attend the meeting with the lawyer who provided the PoA. Over the past year, my brother has spent approximately $23,000 of her money on himself, for example, over $3,000 to fix the well at his weekend home, several thousand dollars for vacations, $1,500 a month in cash for my mother's "expenses", which he reimburses himself for separately as well, vet bills for his dogs, bottles of wine, dinners out, etc. He claims my mother consented to this. Can she consent after being diagnosed with Alzheimer's? Can he legally use her money to pay his bills even with her consent? He certainly does not have a financial hardship as he and his wife make approximately $200,000 a year. I've insisted he repay the money to my mother but he has refused. They live in Virginia. The Elder Abuse services said he is doing nothing wrong, but I disagree. If he is not legally wrong, he is certainly morally wrong. After I insisted he repay the money, he lawyered up and will no longer communicate with me or allow me to speak with my mother.