My father is in AL and originally went in for a 30 day respite stay, but we believe will need to stay due to vascular dementia and not being safe in his 2 story home. He is always calling his friends and neighbors to come get him and either take some things home or pick up a few things from the house. One friend did actually take him to his house once and tried to leave with him a second time (and was stopped). We have told this friend he cannot do that, no matter what my Dad says, and he has promised he won't. He now only visits my Dad for lunch or dinner at AL and then leaves. This friend came to visit my Dad on Sat and my Dad thought he was going to take him home to drop some clothes off. When the friend arrived and saw my Dad with clothes in hand, he immediately took my Dad to his room and hung his clothes back up. They never even came close to leaving the facility. The head nurse called my sister and said that since he continues to try and leave they will have to move him to memory care or we have to hire a 'sitter' all day. While we were trying to figure out what to do on a Saturday w/ short notice, they got him to go have lunch with someone he knows in memory care and then wouldn't let him out until we hired a company to come sit with him during the day. He was very confused and upset and even the nurse from the outside care group thought what they did was ridiculous. Can they "force" us to move him to memory care? We just talked with them a week ago about how he wasn't ready to fully accept he was not going home and we would work on distraction techniques when he was asking about taking clothes or getting clothes from his house. This just seemed a bit extreme to me and put my sister and I in a very bad position.