Mom was always a reader. She loves good fiction and to a lesser extent nonfiction. But now, in mid-stage dementia, she's quickly losing her #1 form of entertainment. Her memory care facility takes her over to the assisted living side occasionally and lets her take books from their library back to MC, but given her inability to retain much, I wonder how much pleasure beyond "in the moment" she gets from these reads. She likes social and political commentary, history, and fiction about family interactions, etc., but I've noticed she isn't reading as much as she used to. I doubt e-books would be very useful because her audio processing is compromised. She's more visually oriented. Some of her most recent reads have been Bill O'Reilly and in fiction, "The Help," but the poor soul can't tell you a thing about them, or in fact if she'd ever read those books before.
She watches television some, but can't seem to follow a story line and gets bored quickly. She refuses to participate in much of the organized social activities there, thinking them "beneath her"; yet, mind you, she can't figure out how to play Bingo. MC offers a world news presentation and discussion almost daily. I'd think she'd love that, but she refuses to participate. Sigh. I've suggested knitting or crocheting (which she used to do, but she refuses likely because of arthritis and deficits in hand-eye coordination. I've brought her crossword and Oduko books, but she doesn't use them. All she really wants is to be taken places away from MC or go for walks that ultimately disintegrate into complaining, criticizing, abuse; just overall negativity, so I try to avoid personal engagement as much as I can. It's sad. I know it will only get worse. I've tried bringing over old photograph albums to resurrect pleasant memories, but I don't know if she looks at them or not. And it's dangerous for me to sit with her and talk about the photos. I've been emotionally traumatized nonstop by Mom since childhood and face-to-face contact must be minimized. I've already detached to a great degree, but despite this, I still wish there was some way to alleviate Mom's boredom. Some way that doesn't directly involve me.
My sister is able to get her out of MC more often than I can. Sister doesn't seem to be on the receiving end of so much abuse; however, even Sis gets sick of the negativity.
Does anyone have any suggestions, especially in the reading department? It's weird, because Mom can spot a book targeted to juveniles a mile away. Can anyone suggest a series of books or nonfiction that entertains adults with diminished intellectual capacity without "talking down" to them? Don't know if I'm explaining this very well. I just wish I could find something for the present to help Mom self-entertain. And obviously, in time, her needs will change as she falls down the black hole of dementia.
All of this is just too sad for words.