My mother is in MC 6 weeks now and I recently had some issues that I addressed with the appropriate people (and while I was upset, I wasn't mean or rude) and 4 days later my brother the POA, called me and asked what happened with mom; as I was telling him he interrupted me and said "You can't do that, be upset and complain" (about our mothers care) that is. I visit mom 2x a day and see things going on, am I really expected to not say things because I'm not the POA? My brother says they told him I made a scene (which isn't true, this was all done in privacy of an office but, I was raising my voice) and I can't do that. I was so upset I stated I wouldn't say anything to them again & got off the phone with my brother immediately. He sent me a text stating "If this is how your gonna act when I try and talk to you about mom, that's a problem and I will fix it." WTH does that mean? Does it matter who complains about things when they're not right (for example; my moms bathroom currently has ants in it, crawling around in the sink (she's grabbing them with her fingers not realizing they are ants). I am virtually the only family member (aside from my daughter) that visits my mother (1 bro sees her 1x a week - 1 bro never sees her) on a regular basis. As POA can my brother keep me from seeing my mother? I am her Healthcare Surrogate. I don't know how he found out but does it sound normal to anyone that they (the MC facility employees complained to my brother about me complaining about OUR moms care or lack thereof; especially, when we all discussed it. I left the conversation with a hug to & from both the caregiver and Medical Director) and I've seen and talked to them since. What am I supposed to do with this extra crap/stress I don't want or need in my life? I was complaining about our mother's care. Confused and frustrated!