Can a paid caregiver, directed by the FPOA, youngest son, deny access to myself, MPOA'S, Daughter/Son to my parents home?
The financial POA and two other siblings have changed the locks on my parents home, and we, myself, my husband, who are the MPOA'S, and my children access to my parents home. we have already had to serve one sibling with a restraining order due to negligence and abuse of my father. This caregiver works a 12 hour shift 12 PM to 12 AM will not allow us access to check on the health of my parents both with advanced dementia and a mother with global aphasia and dementia. My father is requiring physical therapy and the other siblings do not care. The police were called for the 3rd time and this time stated get a restraining order on the caregiver. That was his solution. Does anyone have any information or had to deal with something like this situation? There's more to this question but this is a start. Thank you.
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The caregiver takes orders from their boss. The boss is the person who pays them. Since that is not you, they're not doing anything wrong.
You should still go down to the courthouse and seek a restraining order against that caregiver though because you have medical POA and a legal obligation to make sure your parents are receiving adequate physical care. If the financial POA prevents or their employees prevent you from doing your legal duty by your parents, they are breaking the law.
While you're applying for a restraining order at the court, stop by the probate court which will probably be in the same building, and make a petition for conservatorship over your parents.
Explain what the financial POA and the employee they pay are doing and how they prevent you from doing your duty. If you explain what's going the judge will very likely rule in your favor and grand conservatorship. Then you're in charge of the money, the care, and all the decisions.
As asked above, what is your desired outcome for your parents?
Have you considered mediation?
Are you in touch with your parents' doctors? Do THEY feel that your parents' medical care is lacking?
Is palliative care, or hospice possibly a choice everyone could agree on?
In your shoes, I think I would look for points of agreement and not try to "win". This all smacks of sibling rivalry and shades of "Mom likes me best".
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I don't really understand what is happening here, why your father needs physical therapy (or how you would know that if you're prevented from seeing him), or what you're hoping to achieve. But what is clear is that it's a pig's breakfast of a mess and I don't see how that can be helping your parents.
What is your desired outcome?