My 84 year old father-in-law was "fooled" into a memory care AL by his new wife and those were here words 3 weeks ago. She is 21 years younger and married only 8 years. He has been diagnosed with dementia for just under 2 years. They went to lunch and then she took him to the assisted living. When he turned around she was gone. His new wife had not discussed any concerns with handling his care to my husband or his brother who had visited from out of town just 2 weeks prior. He does have impaired short term memory but is able to perform all ADL's andwalks with a rollator. He needs help with meds, finances, and driving. She even had a Certified Senior Advisor who also did not discuss this with us but come to find out she makes a 1 month commission on placement in homes she has contracts with (completely unethical in my opinion). Dad is miserable, depressed, and crying for us to take him out of there. Home care was never considered and he has 2 long term care policies and money to pay for home care. We are able to handle his care in another state and will hire caregivers as needed. We live in a one story home, have an extra room, and I am a physical therapist. Facility will not discuss much with us because his wife did not place us on HIPAA and will not return calls. Can he leave with us because he has not been deemed incompetent by a court of law or will facility not let us in? He is adamant he wants out to come with us and is definitely suffering from relocation stress syndrome. Not to mention coronavirus adding to our difficulty! Please help!!