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But has she lost capacity? Has she formally been found incompetent in the legal sense? If not, see Igloo's exceptionally helpful guide to guardianship, above, because you're going to have a heck of a game getting her assessed so that you can start using your DPOA as intended.
The person has to be evaluated with letters presented to the court as to their mental state. Have to be by a physician or two and perhaps also a social worker or clergy. MD need to have state license and will have to be paid to provide this. Usually they do not come to the hearings but may be called if someone fights who gets G/C & they call into ? the documents. Because of that not all MD will sign off on competency. Your attorney - if they are experienced in doing G/C work - will have the names of MD who do. MD may or may not take Medicare or Medicaid. SW will be private pay.
Now if you are asking to be the G/C, you may have to undergo a background check. So think carefully is there is anything amiss. Could be something like your kid who lives in your household has juvee issues; someone has old felony record; you have outstanding parking tickets; you owe taxes. You need to have a job or other secure source of income, so there is no need for you to use any of the elder's money. If there is other family coming to hearings, you all have to present a 100 & 1% united front as to who is to be the G/C. No in-fighting and 1 person is the point person for the family. You need to present yourself properly in court & pay attention to the judge. He is the most important & best looking person in the room, even if he looks like Jabba the Hut too. A good G/C attorney will prep you on all this. But I've seen family who just can't sit and do what they have been told.
The judge does NOT have to appoint family as the G/C. If there is any fighting, they will usually appoint a temporary G/C from an approved & vetted list of G/C in your county. Family either has to get their sh** together or the temporary becomes the permanent G/C for the person and they get to determine placement, etc. Also if the G/C applicant has legal issues or seems to the judge to be incapable of doing the work required (reporting, hearings, etc), the judge kinda has to give the G/C either to a better suited family member or name an outside G/C.
Now you have to pay the attorney for the G/C work. If you become the G/C then you can pay them from the elders assets or reimburse yourself for the costs you paid up front. But if you loose, you have spent the $ with no recourse.
If you don't have the funds to pay for G/C and mom needs to be forced placed for her own safety & security, what to do? Contact APS to do a wellness check on mom. If mom is violent and threading, APS will contact the police and she will be taken probably in EMS vehicle for a mental health evaluation at the local hospital. If they find areas of concern (which sounds likely), you tell them that you want mom to become a ward of the state and placed under the states care system. that you are unable to provide the level of care or oversight needed for mom - you have to be very firm and consistent in stating this too. Ward of the state is a G/C action, and the judge will appoint a temporary vetted by the court G/C from an established list to deal with mom. Often this situation is the best as the G/C can get things done much faster - like an emergency placement in a skilled nursing facility or mental health placement if she is violent & threatening - than you ever could & there is none of the parent/child emotional issues involved. The G/C for wards of the state don't shut out family, they want family to be involved. But you have to clearly understand that they are in charge, they direct what happens.
None of this is easy but sometimes you have to take a stand for what is the best for the elders long term situation. Good luck & stay focused.
If mom is this type, and either will not ever be reasonable &/or you don't have the personality to outsize her, then the only option left is for someone to become the legal guardian or conservator for mom. If the lawyer already is familiar with mom & you, I'd suggest you schedule a visit with them to discuss doing a G/C. Now G/C is pretty specialized, so they may refer you to another attorney. The costs for G/C run anywhere from 5K to 15K and there are court requirements, costs, etc.
G/C is not something to be taken lightly. I'll do another post on my perspective on all that.