Can a hospital ban an incompetent patient's son/POA from being with her 24/7 who is very involved with every aspect of her care?

What were the mother's wishes at end of life as expressed in an advanced directive? Is he carrying out her wishes, or his? Are you able to discuss this with him? And of course, if he is interfering with medical staff carrying out their duties, possibly endangering the care of other patients due to unreasonable staff time demands, then of course he will not be welcome. Are you able to talk with him about the situation? Sounds like the problem here is as much his as his mothers. Frankly I do not believe in extending life with a respirator - this is for temporary situations where it is reasonable to believe that the person will recover, at least to some extent, not to prolong the dying process or impose a living death. I believe that is torture.

Hospitals don't ban anyone UNLESS they are being totally disruptive. I believe that it's legal for them to do that because it's in the best interest of the patient and the other patients and staff. Most of the "removals" I've seen have been in Emergency Room. Family members can get pretty riled up in there.

I've seen some damn b**** family members on the regular hospital floors but I can't remember the hospital banning anyone.

The guy sounds like he should back off, get some therapy for coping with the condition of his mom and have regular meetings with her doctors.

She will probably be moved to a nursing home that takes "vents" (respirator dependent patients). He'd better be more respectful or they'll transfer her outa' there.
I'm sure he's not coping well, since they are probably dependent on each other but he's not going to get anywhere behaving this way.

The hospital has every right to decide who is on their premises. You can't find it that surprising that after a month of his being to varying degrees disruptive, obnoxious, belligerent and now - frankly - threatening they have had enough.

What is the mother's prognosis? Is she still on a ventilator? Is she still considered at imminent risk of dying?

It matters only because it's a question of who to open negotiations with. Your friend needs an advocate who can discuss what has happened with the hospital (or with an SNF, if that's becoming a plan) and persuade them to allow him to visit his mother. It shouldn't be impossible, but obviously it will involve giving undertakings and accepting conditions to ensure that the hospital's staff's safety and routine are not further jeopardised by this one relative.

If you want to be a good friend to this man, stop trying to minimise the problems of his behaviour, or make excuses for him; and instead try to get him to calm down and adjust his perspective. Why? Eyes on the prize - he wants to see his mother, and he probably hasn't much time to waste on fighting.

You may well find that the hospital runs some kind of information centre where you can ask about patients' and relatives' advocacy or support. I hope you'll be able to find some practical help, anyway - let us know how it goes.

He should talk to the administrator of the hospital..I’m not sure what’s going on but usually hospitals don’t ban people for asking questions...also he should go by her wishes ,did she want to be kept alive ? Some people do and they stay on vents for years ...but I would most definitely talk to the hospital administrator about why he was banned ,.

A hospital or dr can ban someone from the hospital--in the best interest of their patient. This son must be acting in a supremely inappropriate way, or this wouldn't be a problem.

Perhaps her EOL wishes are not being carried out and he is angry. I would think that simply "being there 24/7" would be a cause for removing him from the hospital.

You likely don't have all the information here.

Yes, if he is interfering in the care of any patient or causing the patients anxiety. Any patient? There are many others that need care too. Type A personalities are not cut out to be caregivers.

That could be ( and probably was) interpreted as a terroristic threat.

By EOL wishes, I take it that she wishes to be a full code, complete with broken ribs when she finally expires?

Threatening to blow the place up? I wouldn't want him in the same building as my loved one. Other patients? There are more patients to attend to than a roommate.

It is her end of life wishes that are being carried out . She is not on a ventalator anymore she receives oxygen per nasal cannual and her saturation is always close to 100 percent. S he is in a private room no other patient are involved in this situation, He is the legal POA over her health care. He as 2 siblings that live away and have visited several times during her illness but return home every staff member feels that she is not going to live fro, what i wqitnessed most of the nursing and insinuate that it is a waste of time . the staff do not feel threatened and should feel appreciative to some extent because they dont have to check on her and pretty much rely on the son for that. he just refuses to allow them to not treat her like she is a lost cause but treat her like patient that EOL wishes are to live. She is able to make eye contact and will smie at her son and will squeeze hand on command. He may bet type a personality but he is a registered nurse that has been taking care of her for over 5 years.her but she has vent free for 6 weeks.. She has a ng tube and a central line and a catheter that is all of life support that she gets. The only threat to the staff is a hypothetical comment that the son told the adminitration that if his mother died because of staffs lack of care or neglect that he would pray for god to make that hospital nothing but rubble yea innapropriate but he was upset with them for Narctic that was given that she should have not been given nor the reason that the order was written

I am surprised that as a nurse he does not have a better awareness of how to win friends and influence people in a hospital rather than getting himself thrown out. Has he ever worked in a hospital?

Did the "incident" 20 years ago have anything to do with healthcare? Why would the hospital even know about it two decades later?

I imagine you are getting your view of this second-hand, from the son. Right?