Hello, I posted a few days ago about my older and only sibling refusing to help my 90+ parents. I provide pt care giving which is wearing me out. I am not mega rich but I have my personal financials in order. I don't need an inheritance from them. Their largest asset is their house. If they need AL or a medical care facility, I want the house to be sold for their care. I received great advice about getting paperwork in order, namely a POA, etc.
I had asked my parents six months ago, after being badgered by their doctors for a year, whether they wanted to remain on life support. I was also curious about the process after they die of what to do. What kind of funeral they want, where it should be, etc.
My dad told me the will was in a safe deposit box which my brother and I both have permission to access together. My dad has a lockbox at home. He and my brother have a key to it. I knew dad did but didn't know about brother having one. My dad said my brother will open the box at the time of their deaths. It's just papers according to dad. I thought nothing of it then.
I questioned my dad yesterday about getting a POA. I wanted to involve my brother, etc. I asked him if I could see what was in the lockbox and the safe deposit box. My very sharp dad started to stumble and stutter. The lockbox has no lock. I could go inside anytime I wanted. (Not true. It's locked. I don't want to invade anyone's privacy by going into their bedroom & attempting to open it.) I challenged him. The answers he gave me made no sense.
I am guessing my brother has sole POA across the board. I'm not sure. My dad's behavior is making me think they are hiding something from me. I don't believe my parents or brother are obligated to tell me that a POA is done already.
Is there any way to find out if there was a POA filed? If anyone knows if this is possible, I'd appreciate it. I'm in California if that helps. Thanks!