Just said that how it was going to moving forward. Dad died 4 days later. He also removed anything from house of value including the safe and furniture. He Sold or kept for himself (not sure what he did with money) a 35k truck, 20k car, tractor, 2 ATVs. He said sold equipment for money for medical care, but it was never deposited into dads account which already had 150k in it. They Essentially looted the house. He had both types of POA and executor of will. However day after he died turned over trust company for probate.
He had cashed in approximately 55k in investment accounts in the months leading up to this my dads death as well. The kicker was the POA’s wife(dads sister) was made the beneficiary on the bank account right before the her husband became POA. So they knew they would get the money. Money was gone day after dad passed. Trustee company was forced to use assets from the will to pay all bills etc.
Also tried to sell house but dad passed too quickly
Hospice just said that’s was how it was going to be. My uncle with POA hates me. He also moved my dad to nursing home and removed over 100k worth of equipment and sold it. Told us that it was for his medical care. Money was never deposited into my dads account that POA used to pay for medical care. He just kept it all. Says he doesn’t have to provide anything to us on where it went.
I would need more of an explanation of why this is happening. What does your Uncle, who I assume is your Dad's POA by your Dad's request, feel that you should not visit at this time? Has something happened during a visit that either Hospice, your Dad or your Uncle found disturbing? You are correct that it is quite unusual for a child to be banned from seeing a parent without very good reason. I am curious what they tell you the reason is.
Didn't understand that your father has already passed. I am sorry for this loss. It is too late now to care about the rightness or wrongness of it all, I am afraid. I assume your Uncle is also the Trustee or the Executor of the estate? I believe as an executor settles an estate it is generally done with a separate account, so that isn't something you would see as to monies going in and paid out to medicaid, to creditors, etc. If your Uncle is the executor he would do well to be honest, breaking the law would have repercussions. If he is the executor and you are a BENEFICIARY of the estate, then by law there are certain things he must do about letting you know in a timely manner, and that is all under state law. If there is a will it will have to be filed. If a Trust it works differently. I suspect there is nothing we on the forum could help you with. Sorry for your loss and wishing you good luck moving forward. Family trauma is always very difficult. To my mind it is best to move away from it all as quickly as possible for your own good, and for your own peace of mind. If there is anything to handle allow a Lawyer to advise you or to handle it.
He had cashed in approximately 55k in investment accounts in the months leading up to this my dads death as well. The kicker was the POA’s wife(dads sister) was made the beneficiary on the bank account right before the her husband became POA. So they knew they would get the money. Money was gone day after dad passed. Trustee company was forced to use assets from the will to pay all bills etc.
Also tried to sell house but dad passed too quickly
You are correct that it is quite unusual for a child to be banned from seeing a parent without very good reason. I am curious what they tell you the reason is.
I assume your Uncle is also the Trustee or the Executor of the estate? I believe as an executor settles an estate it is generally done with a separate account, so that isn't something you would see as to monies going in and paid out to medicaid, to creditors, etc.
If your Uncle is the executor he would do well to be honest, breaking the law would have repercussions. If he is the executor and you are a BENEFICIARY of the estate, then by law there are certain things he must do about letting you know in a timely manner, and that is all under state law. If there is a will it will have to be filed. If a Trust it works differently.
I suspect there is nothing we on the forum could help you with. Sorry for your loss and wishing you good luck moving forward. Family trauma is always very difficult. To my mind it is best to move away from it all as quickly as possible for your own good, and for your own peace of mind. If there is anything to handle allow a Lawyer to advise you or to handle it.