My mother has Alzheimer's and aphasia. The nuerologist I took her to says she's needs to be in assisted living. My mother refuses to go so I hired a care giver to come to her house three times a week while making plans for her to stay with my sister. My sister lives alone while I still have children at home with me. My sister's HOA won't accept more than 2 dogs and she has a dog. So my mother who has a dog used the care giver to get a rescue dog. Now she can't move in with my sister. She made me terminate the care giver. She wants me to go to her house every day, which is difficult. So she gets mad and brings the neighbors into her home, and of course they are horrified by her living conditions. They called me out on social media accusing me of neglect. I don't know what to do. She refuses to give me power of attorney. The doctors bring it up every visit and she gets very nasty about it. I thought about getting guardianship, but in Florida it can cost up to $7,000. She is a mean person, always has been. My childhood was horrible because she always pitted everyone against me and I carried the pain alone because I didn't think anyone would believe me. However, my husband has been a great support because he sees it first hand. So now I'm going to give the dog back to the rescue and my sister says she will come out and get her, but I know she won't. She has been saying she'll get her for a year now. She has given so much to my sister and clearly favors her, yet my sister has left her care to me and she was furious I hired the care giver. She even had reported her to the police for stealing my mother's credit card, which I don't think she did. I feel like my sister doesn't want to spend the money for the assisted living and doesn't want to deal with her either. She has been dropped on me and I have no power to do anything. I'm considering calling APS to check in on her and take over. Sorry for the rant, but this has affected my job and my sleep. I find myself binge eating and not exercising any more. I'm tired all the time. And it pisses me off that I am being judged so negatively by everyone because of this. No one understands.