Hi everyone I’m new here. My mother is not elderly as she is 51 years old yet she behaves in a way that is as if she is. She has a series of health issues that she refuses to get checked out and every time she has an episode she expects me to run to her rescue. She hasn’t worked in like ever so I am her support, financial and pretty much anything that she needs, none of her other family members help out and since I’m an only child all of the burden falls on me. I am not free to live my life because it is spent taking care of her, being her support system and it is very tiring. It has always been this way, she is stubborn, does not listen and I truly believe that she is milking her illness to the max. This behavior has went on for years, and between taking care of my own child I feel myself getting burnt out. Since she’s fairly young and has no money I’m not sure if she’s even eligible for an assisted living facility of some sort. She has no care for helping me with bills, she just adds to them, she is the most selfish individual and she expects me to put my life on hold to assist her and I am sick of it. Does anyone have any suggestions because I have obviously tried talking to her, reasoning with her, I even moved out at one point and her health deteriorated even worse and of course everyone blamed me for it. I don’t know what to do. At this point, she has left me crippled financially because all of her medication is paid for by me, and if I can’t come up with it she always puts me on these guilt trips. When she has an asthmatic episode, somehow I am to blame, when she gets her medicine and is feeling better, she resorts to laziness and she does not help herself. She doesn’t drive, she barely helps around the house and somehow seems to think that because she is my mother I owe her my own life. She is not in any way appreciative of what I do and she acts extremely entitled. She has no hobbies, no friends and basically no life and wants to stay in that state. If she doesn’t get her way then she won’t hesitate to run over to a family friend or neighbor and embarrass herself and myself with the way that she carries herself and of course I’m the one to blame for her because they always say that “I should be helping her, after all she is my mother”. As if I don’t do enough. She is taking prednisone and she is addicted to it and won’t admit it, no matter how much I have told her the damage that it can cause, doctors have told her the same, she still insists upon taking it because as she says “it’s what’s keeping her alive”, and yet every 3 weeks she has an episode. I’m just sick of it, every time I feel myself moving up towards advancement in my life, she pulls me right back. She has ruined relationships of mine because of her repulsive behavior.