I have posted a few times before. My mom is 67, has MS, and just broke her hip in February. Before she broke her hip, she couldn't walk, but she could transfer herself from scooter to bed or toilet so she had her own apartment 5 minutes from our house. I would visit several times a week and prepare her meals for her and she had someone who took her shopping. I have a two year old and four year old and I am expecting our third in October. My husband works very long hours so it is just me caring for them all most of the times.
Everything was going fine until she broke her hip in February. Now she is unable to transfer herself. While in rehab I moved her once because of her complaints about how horrible the place was. Second place was just as bad with her complaining. They wouldn't prepare her meals to her dietary restrictions so I had to make most of her meals for her still. (She is gluten and dairy free because she finds it helps her MS symptoms, as well as low sodium).
Very last minute we found out she wasn't improving so she had to find a new place outside rehab by May 1st. I spent many hours researching and finding her a place. She is now in a personal care home where they are just not ready for her. Many promises have been broken from the owner, and she is basically being kicked out because they will not build the ramps they promised they would for her. So now I need to find a new place. But while I am trying to do that my mom is constantly calling me saying how horrible it is there, how they have no food, how dark it is, how much the caregiver yells at everyone, etc.
I am getting very burned out and am getting very angry. I usually can handle things well but this is getting to me. It is taking is taking my time and energy from my kids and I feel ready to just not bother with it any more. I found a new nursing home that seems good and I am visiting it on Monday. I am preparing myself for a new list of constant complains from her.
Thank you for taking time to read this. I am feeling lost and ready to give up on my mom. Absolutely nothing makes her happy. I know she is depressed, this is a very hard time for her losing the little bit of independence she had, and she misses her apartment. But I feel like she is bringing me down with her. We have no family in the area, my husband is military so we move every few years. That will add an entire new problem next year but I will worry about that when it comes. She has four brothers, they all live in different states, but not one has stepped up to offer an sort of assistance.