My father is 93 and living in his own home. He lives alone as my mum died 18 years ago. Since then I have seen him more and more. Certainly every Saturday and Sunday. Saturday used to be taking him shopping, now it is doing his shopping as he is housebound apart from a very short walk in the street with me to support. I speak to him every day. If I didn't visit it would be on the phone, but now I have to visit as he can't hear. He always has 'issues'. The visit is rarely just a chat. Always something to fix, acquire, do etc. We never sit and watch TV or just talk. I am an only child (well of 64!) so it all falls on me. He does have a friend visit and visits twice a week from two agencies. They just chat and help solve his problems. After a three week stay in respite due to arthritis he currently has carers three times a day, but he doesn't like this and he hated being in respite and that was actually worse than him being at home. I had to go in every day, sometimes twice a day to sort out his problems. It is me who takes him to, for example, get his eyes tested, his hearing aids sorted, the dentist - all of which are difficult as he struggles to walk. It is a shame for him because he now can't garden or go anywhere at all without my help. He doesn't watch television much as he can't hear it and was never that interested anyway. He doesn't read much anymore. He eats and sleeps and comes up with problems. Basically I am visiting most days. You can't pop in with old people. A visit is at least an hour, usually more. I am worn out and feel I can't go on. After the experience of him having respite care I think he would be dreadful if I got him into a care home. He would hate it and cause trouble. I don't know what to do. I feel my life is being wasted. I am exhausted and depressed at the thought of having to do this every day. There are no other relatives near by. My husband occasionally goes round, but they don't get on. I don't know what the solution is.