i moved my mom in 3 years ago after my step dad had a massive stroke, he has since passed away. I’ve sold their home, cars, hired an elder lawyer, had her will redone. Since being with me she has had 2 strokes, a heart attack and pneumonia. Feels like all I do is either go to the hospital or now constant doctor appts. My mom doesn’t want to do anything. I have asked my siblings for help and have sent my mom to visit them in Florida and West Virginia. But when she comes back we end up with her in the hospital. I have told the family from now on if you want to see you must come here. Well one of my brothers did and she stayed in her room almost the entire time he was here. The day he left she was up bright and early to spend all her time with me. My mom can still get around with her cane. She just wants to be with just me it appears. I am about to lose it. I feel guilty if I want to go to the grocery store by myself or just go fishing (which I use to do a lot). I use to volunteer at my church. Which now if I take her with me she is a risk cause she doesn’t always think about safety first. Which means I watch after her and can’t get much volunteering done. Everyone gets to go and do what they want when they want. I feel stuck in this rut. I miss being with my husband and if we go out to dinner I feel guilty that I left her at home. I just feel hopeless because I have lost who I am and I’ve lost the person that I once was.