We moved my parents to a 55+ community. I'm living with them as their caregiver as I am over the age limit too, and was shocked to discover that we have a band of neighborhood bullies. These bullies call the shots and inform everyone about "the new people" based on what they want to believe. What can I do to keep my sanity while caring for mom & dad. Under the guise of being on the HOA board there is one woman who is torturing us. She is "scared to death" that someone with dementia might __________ Use your own imagination and just fill in the blank with whatever seems crazy - she's said it all to others not us. She is a clean freak and loves to play people against each other. Now she's gotten it into her head that a friend of hers needs to live near to her and she wants us "gone". I cringe hearing her talking on her speakerphone (yes really) about getting rid of us with complaints. HELP, I'm losing my sense of humor and my mind. How do I handle someone like that. Caregiving is not easy, but I never thought I'd feel like this now that our security is being threatend. We didn't do anything wrong, how do I manage to get past this bully? I wasn't very good at it in grade school either. I look at my parents and feel sick to my stomach that we picked a place that looked like paradise, but is turning out to feel more like Salem during the witch hunts.