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not doing what mom wants- but has been getting away with it because I was intimidated-
I am not anymore- he refuses to let me see moms possessions without signing a release-I have no idea what her estate involves-
he still will not tell me what his inventory was - as he secretly packed up and closed the apt without allowing me to be there-
he is an angry and vindictive person who refuses to show any compassion , ethics or morality-
I was the one who cared for her for over 10 years- and he cut me out- and I let him-
and I will not allow it any more-
idont know if I am asking a question or just letting off steam-
he claims he is doing me a favor but I have to sign away on this release form first-
I am not signing something that I have no idea what her estate contains-
poor mpm- she never wanted this-
this was his agenda all along-
I fuming- going to go for a walk to get rid of this negative energy-
I haven't posted in months- ive been sick-and drained-this time he has pushed e too far-
I don't see why I have to shell out for lawyer when he always said she had nothing of value- now he talks of and estate sale to pay for her care at the nh- when her insurance runs out- but something isn't making sense-
thanks guys for just letting me vent-
gotta get rid of all this negative and harmful energy that I am wasting on this ass and his narcissistic ,condescending attitude-

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I have been living through a similar situation with siblings for the past four years. You have options: 1. Hire an attorney who specializes in elder care.
2. Contact Family and Children Services for a wellness visit due to
your brother's secretive nature. Let them know you are
concerned about your mother's well-being - both physical and
mental.
This should get things started. The officials you contact can give you other
contacts. Don't give up. Best wishes
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PoA is not a free pass to do whatever one wants, but the exact checks and balances vary from place to place. You must research the laws regarding PoA in your jurisdiction. There are probably some free legal resources you can access, for general info. For your specific case, you may well need a lawyer. If the Attorney is found to be at fault, they may be directed to pay for your legal fees.

In the meantime, gather up as much evidence as you can. Write down everything you remember, dates, what was said, possessions of your mother's that aren't accounted for, etc.
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I think you would or should know what your Mother has ( home , cars , cash , jewelry)? or anything of value if you took care of her for 10 years.
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You need an attorney sooner rather than later...this gets jumbled b/c the whole story isn't here. Im sorry...l can't tell exactly from what you've written if your mom still lives or has passed away? Don't sign any releases. If your mom has passed, POAs expire at death. He'd have to be executor of her will to be doing what he's doing legally yet if you are a beneficiary, he cannit manipulate you and disappear with stuff as he pleased; there is accounting necessary. Civilly, there is something called lnjunctive Relief, gets you in to court where the judge has the power to top him depending on circumstances. You'd absolutely need an attorney & s/he might instead file for an ex-parte emergency hearing with you challenging for conservatorship or guardianship as it might be called in your state (depending on what's wrong w/ mom if she's still with us &, if she's competent- if she's willing to turn on your brother & back you). You'd have to document your charges very clesrly and substantially. A question that will come up is why your mom assigned her POA and/or executorship to your brother when you were the caregiver?? Another avenue might be criminally. As POA he has a fiduciary responsibility 2 proceed in the proper way with your mom's things. Don't do anything else without a lawyer and don't waste any time consulting with one!
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Sounds like my brother and what he did. However, I got the best satisfaction of knowing he could not spend our equally shared inheritance (5 ways) because he would not stop smoking, and contracted lung cancer and died at 55. So your situation is not unique and you can either let all this go or you can spend the money to bring in some legal help. You make the choice, you are in charge of only yourself. Your brother will meet his maker someday and then Kaboom!
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Only one piece of advice, and it does sound like you need an attorney, or get adult protection involved, or the cops. It varies with laws where you live. If you decided to retain an attorney, make sure the attorney is a litigator and not someone that merely prepares documents. Many are not suitable for the courtroom for a variety of reasons. But if this escalates, you will definitely need a litigator, as I have. Threw money at estate planners to try to settle this, but there was absolutely no cooperation from sib that holds POA's and has claimed Trustee without required documentation.
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Sadly, I too have a situation with a bully for a brother who took over my role as my mom's POA. Won't go into details but it was nasty... these situations usually are. I sought legal advice from 2 lawyers specializing in elder law, probate, etc. I chose not to pursue legal action at this time (mom is still alive) because much of the previous suggestions are legitimate the reality is you'll spend a bundle if you try and bring a lawyer into this. And trying to get social services or the police involved isn't a slam dunk either. Unless there is little question that a crime has been committed they're going to tell you this is a civil matter and that you need to hire an attorney. Think very carefully about what you really can and cannot do for your mom. If she is okay with your brother being her POA there isn't much you can do about it. Unless your willing to spend potentially thousands of dollars in legal fees with no certainty of success in the end which frankly I wasn't willing to chance. Try not to let your brother's actions consume your life... he isn't worth it. Best wishes.
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@almost everyone here, you MUST look into the relevant laws *in your jurisdiction*. No one here can give anything but VERY general advice, which isn't enough to actually solve a PoA or estate problem. For specific advice, you MUST speak to a lawyer about all the particulars of your case. AND you should do your own research and learning so that you can have a more productive discussion with the lawyer.

As I said upthread, most jurisdictions (states) have general info posted on their websites, estate law firms have info on their websites, and librarians can help you.

Be aware that if you do not educate yourself and take action regarding PoA or executor misconduct there is essentially ZERO chance of it being detected or satisfactorily resolved by sheer luck.
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Got satisfaction from your brothers death? oh my! Oh, is that judgemental? Oops, so sorry. That sentence just blew my mind.
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To really be a SERIOUS THREAT and have any possibility of getting a resolution...someone has to challenge him POA, in a Court! Many Many Many POA's abuse the document and puff out their chest and wait till someone actually does something about it. It is sad. Call your state center on aging and see what they could possibly do...if anything? Good luck
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