I bet you don't contribute to your Mothers Care you have your brother doing all the work. All you are worried about is getting the money later but when your mother is still alive you do nothing. Greedy Greedy Greedy that is what you are you should be ashamed of yourself. That Karma is going to catch up with you and all these people that agree and go along with your lies when they don't really know the situation the truth will come out.
Your Brother does all the caretaken and you do nothing but work behind the scenes to lie and by the way you still owe your mother $8000 dollars that you stole from her when she was greiving over her husband death.
going through issue with disable sister where a niece has convienced her to give her poa and not to tell anyone making other people bad and herself look good to sister to get what she want sister to do sister doesn't believe me to be telling truthbut believes niece and is begining to lie , niece has suggested to sister to tell others to stay away from her . I am sister trying to held disable sister but niece is turning her or has turned her against me dont know how to handle this
Kiki a POA is a legal document signed and executed by a person of sound mind and it requires to be notarized and witnessed. Daughters are possessive and my suggestion is to have an attorney draw up a special document outline the responsibilities of each party to satisfy everyone and preserve the legality The document should address all issue as to distribution etc and allow the attorney to be the arbitrator to advise on any decisions that are in conflict.
can special docoments be drawn up with request if disable sister and pos refuses to do so,, Reason for asking poa has power for wrong reasons is turning disable sister against up do need this to happen thank you kiki
can special documents be drawn up if disable sister and pos refuses to have this or do i need to file for guardian ship causing matters worse, Poa was obtained for wrong reason and to keep her away from her family but disable sister does not want to hear this
Kiki the question is cognitive capability to make her own decisions. If not a DOCTORS CERTIFICATE will assume your authority over your mothers wishes. My suggestion under this circumstance would then meet the laws requirement.,
Elder care attorneys commonly advise for a single POA so that there won't be a conflict in decision making.
But I can understand if you were previously doing dual POA, why change it now?
As someone who was formerly accused of financial abuse, I do second the idea that we don't make, or advocate making, these accusations lightly. But also, if there is nothing to it, it's easily disproven. There's some resentment on my part about that but not necessarily because of the accusation but because my family didn't care enough to sort out what was happening with the finances. When a 3rd party (who was the real financial abuser, the home care agency) said that I was an abuser, family was temporarily influenced by the wrong party for a period of a few months -- but still, that's all it took for my grandmother's care to be taken out of my hands and she went from a healthy centenarian to deceased in 2 months.
I don't think most families are like my dysfunctional, disconnected, mistrusting family, but then again, these issues have a way of pushing buttons even in stable families.
I hear your statement, and echo such an occurrence. "Resentment"? Yes. And, HURT, by family members "buying in" to agencies' accounting of the situation, and how the agency had been seeking their payments! This ill-advised interference by family members caused such emotional pain, it took a serious toll on my mother's health - hastening her demise as she approached her 100th birthday.
I stated the attorney as arbitrator. Perhaps a family counselor to sort this out in front of a lawyer. This entire area of family feuds on a POA is inherent in most large families and needs addressing by competent authority as a guideline..
disability of sister is legal blind with slight vision but can see with mag. glass can make own decisions for herself within reason, does not understand everything when explained to her within reason, neice interviened by getting pos due to conflict with her and her mother using using this to get back at her mother but also got me involved in it since am another sister, I feel like mother and daughter needs to get their difference resolved without involving handicap sister but to go after neice to prove her unfit to have this power but sister wants to file for guardinship for handicap sister knowing will only push her toward neice and further away from us this is a mixed up situation and handicapsister is caught in middle not knowing full and real reason behind it. Now I am confused at to push for guardinship or not knowing will make things worse. I guess I am actually asking what is correct way to go without damagining handicap sister more. She is not insane knows what she is doing up to a certain point slow in understanding properly but able to take care of herself. Neice is trying to move her out of where she lives to get her away for both of her sisters so neither one of us can contact her and I do not want this and sister does not need this but she will not talk to me about it,. What do you siggest. Thank you for listinign
I suggest you take it to a nice judge who will appoint a guardian independent of your disabled sister's warring family. It sounds as though that would be the only way to lift your disabled sister clear of the conflict and ensure that her needs and welfare are her guardian's *only* consideration.
If your sister is partially sighted and has a learning disability (is that so, strictly speaking?), then there also needs to be an assessment of whether or not she can be said to have legal capacity. It would be easy to assume not, but the preference is to enable people with learning disabilities to be self-determining as far as possible, with appropriate support.
Are you in touch with any of the staff or managers at your sister's ILF? They may well know social workers or support workers with a specialist understanding of your sister's needs, who in turn might be able to advise you about how to go forward.
I'm not being rude about your family, by the way. I would guess that at least part of the reasons behind the conflict come from different people having strongly held but different views about how best to look after the sister/aunt. But if the poor lady isn't to be pulled in all directions the best way is to hand responsibility to an experienced, neutral third party.
Sounds good, Churchmouse, but are you aware of how expensive a proposition it is to obtain a legally appointed Guardian?! It is VERY pricey: court costs, attorney fees, Guardian-ad-litem reports etc. Ask any responsible attorney, and they will advise you that it is an expensive legal action. And, those who work as Guardians do not do so for free either. It is a very lucrative job for attorneys who choose to do it, since they charge by the hour. They charge the locally accepted price per hour that attorneys charge for other services. Although you do NOT have to be an attorney, there seems to be an inadequate number of responsible citizens willing to take on the task. We have much to improve in our American "system", and our attitudes toward, Caregiving. !
I'm sure it is almost prohibitively expensive for a family member to make an application for guardianship - and especially if it is opposed, as it almost certainly would be if Kiki were to make an application. But Kiki's sister is in Independent Living, and is a person with substantial disabilities. Would it be possible for her to make the application on her own account, with support from her ILF management and/or social care team, to protect her future interests?
nephew is SO embezzeling from my brother. so far, joes house was foreclosed on, he has 8 credit cards in his name (only had 3 before his stroke), has a new car, and, oh yeah, so far, hes in collections for a $1300 cable bill, $2000 over on 1 of the 'new' creditcards, and, the water bill. plus, he putall joes vehicles in his name, and sold a couple of them. his son sure is a fine p.o.a. we HAVE to get him off of it, befoe he totally ruins joes credit.
But I can understand if you were previously doing dual POA, why change it now?
As someone who was formerly accused of financial abuse, I do second the idea that we don't make, or advocate making, these accusations lightly. But also, if there is nothing to it, it's easily disproven. There's some resentment on my part about that but not necessarily because of the accusation but because my family didn't care enough to sort out what was happening with the finances. When a 3rd party (who was the real financial abuser, the home care agency) said that I was an abuser, family was temporarily influenced by the wrong party for a period of a few months -- but still, that's all it took for my grandmother's care to be taken out of my hands and she went from a healthy centenarian to deceased in 2 months.
I don't think most families are like my dysfunctional, disconnected, mistrusting family, but then again, these issues have a way of pushing buttons even in stable families.
If your sister is partially sighted and has a learning disability (is that so, strictly speaking?), then there also needs to be an assessment of whether or not she can be said to have legal capacity. It would be easy to assume not, but the preference is to enable people with learning disabilities to be self-determining as far as possible, with appropriate support.
Are you in touch with any of the staff or managers at your sister's ILF? They may well know social workers or support workers with a specialist understanding of your sister's needs, who in turn might be able to advise you about how to go forward.
I'm not being rude about your family, by the way. I would guess that at least part of the reasons behind the conflict come from different people having strongly held but different views about how best to look after the sister/aunt. But if the poor lady isn't to be pulled in all directions the best way is to hand responsibility to an experienced, neutral third party.
plus, he putall joes vehicles in his name, and sold a couple of them.
his son sure is a fine p.o.a.
we HAVE to get him off of it, befoe he totally ruins joes credit.