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In my case, my sister had moved in with her husband and kids into my parents house to take care of our parents. She got POA and received a high compensation (maximum amount from a previous state) of $6000/month to take care of our parents. Our parents health was pretty good, being functional, alert, and quite cogent. Eventually, my parents elder law attorney, whom my sister arranged for them to set up the POA and Will, didn't like what was going on, and felt the level of care didn't come close to the compensation awarded. However, before contacting APS, even the lawyer needed to hear it straight from my parents how they felt about the care. At first, my parents weren't ready to cooperate and supported my sister, but after going to a neutral location where the lawyer confirmed to my parents that they could safely confide in her with complete confidentiality they shared that they weren't happy with the level of care, and also thought the compensation being asked from them was too much. Only then did the lawyer approach APS and set things in motion for removing my sister from POA, moving her out of their home, and helping my parents relocate to an assisted living arrangement of their choice. The lawyer also then set up a neutral third party elder financial service provider as POA.
Like the others here, I saw my sister's actions as being suspect, but lacked proof and cooperation from my parents to take action.
thanks for that story. Two years ago I nearly had to brow beat my husband into putting my name on all of his accounts. He is 82 and in very poor health. I felt like a rat being so strident with him--after this story, I realize that i was RIGHT.
Thank you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
My conman of a brother has got my mum to change her will when she was confused and weak and old .The problem you may have is proving it I have written and spoke to many solicitors and without proof they wont pursue the case have you full proof of a fraud? if so go to a solicitor don't bother with the police they see it as a family matter, well they do in the UK .My proof was lost and my thieving brother and his thieving wife have my mums house and money now my mum had always wanted 50/50 for her 2 boys' these thieving bastards have conned mum and disrespected my mums wishes ignoring her wishes after she had gone they really are a pair of money grabbing scumbags.Good luck with your case but without full proof don't waste your time .
But I can understand if you were previously doing dual POA, why change it now?
As someone who was formerly accused of financial abuse, I do second the idea that we don't make, or advocate making, these accusations lightly. But also, if there is nothing to it, it's easily disproven. There's some resentment on my part about that but not necessarily because of the accusation but because my family didn't care enough to sort out what was happening with the finances. When a 3rd party (who was the real financial abuser, the home care agency) said that I was an abuser, family was temporarily influenced by the wrong party for a period of a few months -- but still, that's all it took for my grandmother's care to be taken out of my hands and she went from a healthy centenarian to deceased in 2 months.
I don't think most families are like my dysfunctional, disconnected, mistrusting family, but then again, these issues have a way of pushing buttons even in stable families.
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