My Mother was enrolled in hospice by my brother the DPOA of hc. He is not revealing what her terminal diagnosis is. How can I find out?

Very sorry for your loss. My hope is that you can put your differences aside with your brother he is family. If you can make peace it will go a long way toward healing. Pleàse know that others care.

Manis, I'm so sorry for your loss. It may have been your Mother's wish for her diagnosis to have been kept secret, and you will never know the reason why. Perhaps in time your brother will provide you with an explanation, but now is the time to unite as a family and help one another to grieve your loss together. She is now your Angel, and will always be with you in spirit!

Condolences on the loss of your mother.

I hope that knowing the hospice placement was appropriate will be of some comfort to you. I also hope that in the coming year you can reestablish some meaningful relationships with your brothers. This has been a sad ordeal for all of you.

My brother and I have resolved things and were unified when she passed.

Manis, that is such very good news.

I am very sorry for your loss manis, but I'm glad that you and your brother were able to work through this! ((((HUGS))))

So sorry Manis glad you and your brother are unified..

Answered prayers...hugs to you for sharing at this difficult time!

Hugs...

I went to the doctor with my Dad and the Dr diagnosed that he has atrophy brain damage and it is progressing. No death diagnosis. He did confide that if it were him i my Dad's spot, if he were happy but not lucid, fine, but if he were not lucid and became unhappy or one of these old mean grumpy guys with dementia, he would want to be enrolled in hospice (don't forget hospice is a process, not a place, you can be "in hospice" at home) rather than having surgeries or procedures to correct whatever illnesses befall him as he gets older. In other words, if he were miserable, he would not want to be supported to live that way. So that is what an MD thinks of hospice. My Mom went into hospice,me thinking she had months, went home to pack, and she died while I was gone. Hospice would have been great sooner. It did her no good waiting that long, and we are all still suffering. Don't wait, if hospice is suggested, it can only help. IMO.

Also as family, hospice benefits are available to YOU to help you understand and deal with your mother's condition. So in that sense, you should soon know what is going on.

My mom had hospice 2 years ago. She was really sick and she has dementia on top of that. I am so glad she was enrolled. She got alot of attention and alot of extra help and she improved . It happens. Of course , when she improved she was not longer considered a candidate for hospice. For now, she is stable but at the age of 91, things can change overnight.