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My Brother and his evil mean and vindictive wife took my mother from her home in Lake Wales, I have made numerous attempts to see her and am now only allowed to get phone calls and occasional photos of Her. Mom and I are and have been always very close as I am the eldest Son. She is close to my Brother but he has allowed his wife to take his testicles. My mother cant stand her and has said she does not trust her. Now she is being used as pawn and an ATM. They know I am on to what they have done. They have missed her appointments with her primary care Dr. and pretty certain she is off her medications as they are trying a "Natural Remedy" to probably save and extort more money from Her. My Dad told me just before he passed away he was concerned about loosing his insurance and suddenly being broke all the time. He said my Brother said there was fraud on the account and it caused the issue with overdrafts. They convinced my Dad who is (God Bless his Heart)gullible when it comes to my little brother were handling their bills since my dear Mom has Alzheimers and could not handle the bills any longer. Big mistake! these people are a train wreck when it comes to personal finances and caring for their own 5 kids at home. They caused my parents to loose their health insurance benefits due to non payment and have not made the mortage payment since before My Dad died. She was supposed to come stay with us during the Thanksgiving Holidays and was really looking forward to spending time with me and my family for a week. We have not has any time alone with her as they are always "on the go". Last week they said they are not brining Mom up but maybe this Christmas. Its been a year and I have not had more than 12 horus with my Mom since Dad died. They always manage to find and excuse to miss me or not tell me they are at her house which is only 45 min. from mine. They said she may call me tonight, which happens about half the time when they say it will. I am recording this call and asking my Mom if they moved because their phones ping to a different location for the past months and also if she still wants to come stay with me for thanks giving. If she says yes I will tell here that i will drive the 8 hours to the keys to get her. Anyone see a problem with this?? Yes, I do plan to call the sheriffs office when I get there to have a witness. HELP ME PLEASE! ANYONE. i JUST WANT TO SPEND SOME TIME WITH MY MOM BEFORE SHE DIES!!!

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I cannot understand why you have NOT called Adult Protective Services or the police to report this.
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It does sound very complicated and troubling. Perhaps, a third party would be helpful in gathering information and sorting out what is going on. If your mother is truly missing, Adult Protective Services may be helpful.
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All your screaming efforts will go to waste since this is a sibling fight which law enforcement are reluctant to become involved with, in other words, it is a civil matter taken up in family court. My siblings put conditions on me visiting our mother until I took them to court and the judge sided with me, but because there were five of us, time had to be allotted for nursing home visits. As it turned out, they never visited, but kept me on a schedule. Mother died in 2002, and even though I was not POA, the nursing home called me first when she died. I then called the sister with the POA and told her to call the other sisters. Bobby, depending on the stage your mother is in, she may be unable to use the phone much less talk on it since dementia robs the person of language skills. Since this seems to be an ongoing battle with your brother, perhaps if you could remember the best times you had with your mother and know that wherever she is now they are still caring for her. Stopping medications with a person who has dementia is not all bad because the person has a terminal illness. The more angry you get, the more YOU will suffer. Sometimes it is better to let things work out the way they are going to, and you will have to accept them.
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I would either call APS, and tell them what you told us and ask what they suggest, or call the police and request a welfare check on your mom since they say they are at her house, give the police her address. Otherwise my last and most expensive suggestion would be to file a missing person report.
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I would report elder abuse and ask for a welfare check. And call the police and list her as a missing person since you seriously cannot find her. Don't mention the brother or anyone, let the police find her.
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Call a government agency to stop abuse of the elderly. They can step in and stop it. Start talking to federal, state and local agencies. Do the best you can for her. Find her. May God bless your efforts to find, protect and have time on this earth to be with her o love her.
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In Illinois-------To report suspected abuse, exploitation or neglect of an older person, call the statewide, 24-hour Adult Protective Services Hotline: 1-866-800-1409, 1-888-206-1327 (TTY).
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Tired has raised a few holes in the story that didn't make sense to me too. "The mortgage hasn't been paid since dad died"? I would think she would have been evicted by now, or bank taken the house. "Mom only lives 45 min away"?....really, and you haven't sat out front and caught her home? Yes, why has so much time gone by, especially when you state you may drive 8 hrs to the Keys? Your brother lives 8 hrs and you live 45 min from her? I may be emotionally upset in my own family dysfunction, but I agree with Tired.
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...Absolutely correct "inner-child ... so does this story not ring bells of the elder child now concerned that the "house may be a part of an estate and unless "he knows of the where about of said "mother that on her demise the estate transfer would be difficult. ... so indeed this "story is only a story at this point, but my guess if at all true, that there are ulterior motives underlying the urgency.
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Jingle may be right. Some things may not be adding up....like a house with the mortgage unpaid? Hello???
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