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My dad with dementia lives with me. He's been living in my home for just a month now, we've got a good routine set and I've hired a nurse to occasionally come in and help. I live about an hour away from my brother, we do not get a long, he is hostile towards me, and he has a record for assault (not against me). I have DPOA for dad, I nice home, accustomed to taking care of other people. Brother is 50 never married, no kids, does not work, desperate for money. We are opposites in every way. I've handled everything well with him, threats, smart remarks, playing games, you name it, but twice now that he's come out to see dad, he kicks my dog when he walks by her, she's a large dog, about 65 lbs, she'll yelp, get up and walk off and then growl at him, he lays into her on purpose, she doesn't even have a chance to get out of his way. I've told him to not do it, but because he knows it bothers me and it's not right, he does it. I don't trust him obviously, so I don't want to put her in a separate room when he's here because I do feel threatened by him. What can I do? I feel if I tell him he's not allowed here, it's just fuel for more grief he wants to cause me and I have quite enough as it is. Since his actions are so predictable, I've considered simply record the video of him doing this "next time" on my phone and taking it to the police and pressing animal abuse charges against him. What do you think?

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Im sorry but did you say this is YOUR HOME? Why is your brother even let in?
Kicking a poor helpless animal is a very serious concern if my brother kicked my cat hed never see me again.
As a pet owner you are responsible for your pet and should not let your brother inside the door AND YES i would report him animal abuse is a sure sign your brother has serious mental issues if he kicked your dad would you be on here asking if THAT was ok?
Its your house and your pet your brother has no right to enter your house let alone kick your dog wake up and get a barring order against him if he wants to see his dad then I suggest he sees him elsewhere that poor dog its not ok to let this happen.
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Get an Order of Protection against him. If he kicks the dog, you'll be next.
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Seconding glad's advice. Never allow your brother into your home again. If he wants to see Dad, it will have to be at another site. If he gives you grief, cut him off.
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Don't deprive Dad of seeing his son ... but make sure it is not in your home. And always have a responsible person with them.
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He WHAT???

Death's too good for him.

In the UK he could be prosecuted: I'd have the RSPCA onto him so fast it'd make his head swim. I know we're a bit nuts, but I'm pretty sure there's a similar mainstream cruelty prevention lobby in the US - contact them for advice.

My Texan psychotherapist friend would also be quick to point out that sadistic cruelty to animals is often an indicator of quite severe psychiatric disorders. How is your brother's behaviour towards your vulnerable father? I'd be worried.
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I would file the charges of animal abuse without warning him. He sounds like a loose canon and may take off on you if you threaten him. If he wants to see dad arrange a public place with a chaperone that isn't you.
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oh my god. that is i excusable. yes, film him... and play it back. make him watch. tell him that is his final warning or you will contact the police.
my mother threw my cat off the table a few weeks ago. she has a history of abusing animals, i yelled at her. (i NEVER yell at her, EVER.)
i know my kitten was out of line, but sometimes these rescues become accustomed to foraging, amd it takes them a while to realise they aren't starving any more.
ewwww, your brother. how terrible. abusing your beloved pet is the same as abusing you in my opinion.
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Tell your brother you will not tolerate his bad behavior toward your dog or any other living being. Then take dad to the front room to visit with your brother and put the dog on a leash with you or gate the dog in adjacent room or kitchen with you. Protect the pet; your brothers an ass to abuse your dog to get under your skin.
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Captain you'd never set foot on my property let alone in my home! Granny charge him with animal abuse, get a restraining order and never let the s.o.b. in again. Anyone who deliberately hurts anyone or anything defenceless needs to be shot!
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If anyone kicked my rabbit on purpose he would be out the door THEN and never allowed back in. The kicker would get off easier if he kicked me. If the kicker threatened to cause grief, I would just roll my eyes. Like really, who cares? A pet should not have to tolerate being kicked in its own home. I wouldn't bother to get the law involved, since I am the law in my house.
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