I am her POA. My Mom was diagnosed with Alzheimer's 2-1/2 years ago. She has allowed him to live here on & off. We have never gotten along & I don't trust him. He has never done anything to help and treated us like her maids when he did stay here
Last year, he pushed me and I ended up with a concussion for 2 weeks (I also suffer from chronic migraines). I wasn't blameless as I had looked at his email when itpoppedupon the computer. But he had NO EXCUSE to put his hands on me. I filed a Temporary Restraining Order to get him out of the house because I was afraid of him (always have been). He was always nasty, and abusive towards me.
He lied in Court, played with the attorneys' time (and cost my Mom A LOT OF $$$). We signed an Agreement (now a Court Order), and he refuses to follow it. It is not hard to adhere to. He is required to notify me 24 hours in advance when he wants to see our Mom (3rd party to be present),; he can't live here again; and can't have access to Mom's money. Today, I overheard her side of the conversation, and he was asking her for money. I no longer have an attorney and plan to have her placed in Long Term Care in the near future (he doesn't know). He's always verbally abusive towards me (and in front of our Mom IF he comes over), calls APS on me frequently and hasn't even seen Mom this year at all. He only calls her when he needs something (and always slams me when he talks to her, which causes her to be agitated).
What do I do? Can I call APS (right now there is a case pending re me from him) claiming I don't feed her and I leave her alone for long periods of time. I am trying to protect her against him, but she doesn't understand that. I appreciate other points of view because I'm stressed out enough, plus have a chronic illness.