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My Mom (86) with Alzheimer's was living in her home with my brother in another state who never lived on his own. He put the money in a brokerage account and he is spending the interest for himself.
I went to see her, there was severe neglect. rotting food, soiled clothing and linens.She is very frail and trying to fend for herself.
I brought her back to my home and am caring for her, and we both work. Our salaries have drastically been reduced due to the time to care for her.

He had nurses coming in and stated that he "lied" about her sugar levels. She was living on peanut butter, V8 juice and Glucerna.
He would cook for himself, and not feed her. He stated "he could not figure out why she was still alive"
We are struggling emotionally and financially to care for her, and the interest would be extremely helpful for her care.
My husband and I are not in the best of health, and we need to get the money matter straightened out, so she will be cared for, in case of our death, or inability to care for her.
My brother does not work, will work for a little while, then says he has "found out how to work the system" living off food stamps, welfare and my mothers money.
Her blood sugar has significantly improved, and blood pressure also. Her blood sugar was 175 - dangerous blood sugar spikes while staying with my brother. I have her blood sugar to under 120, and blood pressure is under control. We have a PCP doctor for her. Also her toenails were 3 inches long. We have taken her to a podiatrist to keep a watch on them.
Cannot afford an attorney. Do I go with help in my state, or her state where the fraud was committed. There are some agencies that are aware of the neglect, according to him. Never know if he is being truthful.
We tried to take care of her in our home 2011, but my brother was in control of all her money, and we started having financial problems.

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Income: Your Mom is supposed to receive social security income, or can get S.S.I. income (Supplemental Security Income.). Start with a visit to the social security office where you live, they will assign you as "representative payee".
If your brother is listed as rep payee, then he is getting that income also. Since you have Mom, Soc. Sec. should cooperate with you. There needs to be a fiduciary accountability and a Power of Attorney (POA). Go to the nearest legal self help, often located at the courthouse. Start with where you are at, keep caring for Mom, and address the fraud later, as you are able. You can have brother removed as POA.
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Ok, you need to know that the above post is not legal advice, and is from a lay person, caregiver with general information to share, not an expert opinion.
This may not apply in your case, your mom's case may be different. Thank you for already rescuing your mother from what sounds like neglect.
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Report it to the Adult Protective Services in both your area and his but remember to cite it as being the care she received in this monster's hands. Make sure both areas are aware of it. Mostly state laws relate to elderly abuse and a quick google of your relevant state will give you the numbers you need to call. If an area was aware of abuse I cannot think they would have ignored it...at least one would hope not.
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I'm only a care-giver, too, but I would also put the fraud charges on the backburner and concentrate on getting POA, getting that social security check sent to my house, and making sure you are getting tax deductions as she is now your dependent. Contact your state senior services dept for financial advice as some may have additional aid programs and they may be able to advise you on pursuing fraud charges, but I can see that possibly becoming time-consuming and expensive. You want to be in control of the situation as your needs dictate.
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I would report it to Adult Protective Services ASAP as others have suggested. Financial exploitation is considered abuse. It might take them awhile to investigate as they're often short-staffed and overworked, but at least it will be THEIR time and money doing the investigation. Some States have an Ombudsman for Elder Abuse/services. If he's getting her Social Security check, that's financial fraud at the Federal government level. Not a good thing! As others suggested, see if you can get assigned as your mother's "Payee" for her S.S. check.
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Adult Protective Services, phonebook, in the front of every phonebook. At least there used to be.
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At least yu can take one huge comfort from all of this you are taking care of her, the road ahead wont be easy but at least she will be safe from harm, xxxx
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Mom with Alzheimer's - vulnerable

She is very frail and trying to fend for herself - Elderly mentally frail - high vulnerability

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He put the money in a brokerage account and he is spending the interest for himself - financial abuse unless there is a written agreement re his care of her

Rotting food - neglect/abuse

Soiled clothing - neglect/abuse

Soiled linens - neglect/abuse

He "lied" about her sugar levels. She was living on peanut butter, V8 juice and Glucerna - Abuse and neglect

He would cook for himself, and not feed her. He stated "he could not figure out why she was still alive" - Predetermined abuse and neglect mental and physical and probably emotional too

Brother says he has "found out how to work the system" living off food stamps, welfare and my mothers money. - Financial exploitation

Some agencies that are aware of the neglect, according to him. Never know if he is being truthful. - hmm I am not a gambler and I would bet they don't

We tried to take care of her in our home 2011, but my brother was in control of all her money, and we started having financial problems - TIME TO ACT

Does that helpo you decide what to do hun - the good Lord forbid that he should ever get to her again or her assets you have to act. If you and your partner were to become suddenly ill it is imperative he doesn't get charge of her again
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Damn I was hoping it might be an option....oh well note to self - stop watching Law & Order
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I think the bank, tax preparer, investment broker, and anyone else commercially involved in handling her resources sometimes pick up on irregularities or out of character transactions. Prior to Alzheimer's she likely engaged with some financial institution and others related to money matters. Don't some at least queston, try to ascertain what prompt such changes in an elderly persons money habits? There are ways to informally interview customers and families to help make that judgement call and put the brakes on the whole process. If it's out character, there is usually something wrong. It could be health, helping for a geniune cause - sending someone to college, helping family pay off loans, health problems or other crises. Minus such events, it just seems to me the financial people would have their antenne tuned in and listening to why the expenditures/withdrawals.
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