My mom had a series of strokes a few years ago. She has dementia. My brother got power of attorney since she was living with him and his wife. However, My brother's wife does not get along with our mom so they found an assisted living facility where she lived for a couple of years. During her time in the ALF, my brother and his wife very rarely visited her. At holidays and special days, I noticed that the only gifts and cards she received were only from my wife and me. She then ended up in the hospital. When I found out about mom being in the hospital (through a nurse at the assisted living facility), I contacted the hospital. They said she was released. I went to my brother and asked him where she was. he said she was in rehab at a nursing home. Before I could go see her, My brother said she was back in the hospital with dehydration and her kidneys were shutting down. He was quick to say that he would make funeral arrangements.My wife and I went to see her. She looked like she was on her deathbed. After about a week , she was ok to leave the hospital. During her time in the hospital, she said she wanted to go home. To live with us. I told her that I would work on it. I told my brother to let me know when she was to be released. He never did. I found out from the hospital. I called him. He said that dropped our mom off at the same nursing home. I told him that my wife and I want mom to live with us. He did not respond. My wife and I have visited her several times. One day, my wife asked mom if she had seen my brother and his wife, she said no, they're bad. My Wife asked mom if she wanted to come live with us. She said yes and that she is very lonely. I sent texts to my brother about it with no response. I called the other day and told him we wanted mom to come live with us so we can spend time with her, take her out to eat, go shopping and lead a more normal life and so we can care for her and where she will be comfortable, happier and surrounded by us (her loving family around her and not strangers), He said he did not think it was a good idea and that he would not wish that on anyone (referring to mom). I asked why. He said because of how she is. I said that the nursing home was a place where people just wait to die. He agreed and said that there is a resident there who is 104 years old and , he said, she don't even want to die. That was a rude and cruel statement. He has had full power and access to mom's retirement income (which she doesn't even see) and we don't know hoe to make him account for her money and where its going. When I asked him how much it costs for mom to be in this nursing home, he said it doesn't cost anything. Medicare pays for it. So where is her income going? With the amount of money she makes, we could afford to have a nurse to come by and check on her while she stays with us. They also have her on a regular solid food diet and she has no bottom teeth (she has dentures and no one can tell me where her bottom teeth are). She has to borrow a sweater from the nursing home to stay warm (why? My brother could get her one with her money). My wife said that she will buy to give to her. Mom has very few clothes and no personal items besides toothbrush, toothpaste, her glasses and few clothes and no shoes. My wife and I believe he wants her to stay there so he can keep and use her money for himself. He doesn't seem to care if she dies. I believe that he has life insurance policies on her so when she does pass away, he and his wife will collect. I want my mom to live with me and my wife, but he will not agree. I can't afford an attorney but we really want mom to live with us. We want what is best for her and my brother only wants money. What can my wife and I do to get mom out of the nursing home and here with us?