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My brother is mentally and finacially abusing my father. My father is 79 years old and isn't quite with it anymore. My brother has talked him into all sorts of things because my brother has a bad temper and is mentally unstable. He has told my dad not to have any contact with my sister or I. As of now he has moved in with my dad with this girl from Indiana. Oh by the way, my brother or this girl do not have jobs and they leave dad alone in the house all the time.
I know the reason they are living there is just to have my dad support them. Please can you help? I have contacted the sheriff, elder abuse hotline and the
Mayor of Waverly and Tammie Barrett and the Lancaster and Cass County
Atttorney. I got your this website info from the Waverly Care Center. My sister
and I and my dad's neighbor's can't believe that my brother is getting away with this and nobod will help us. He just got out of Tabitha on July 20. I can't believe
they actually let him go home with my brother. I just lost all my faith in Tabitha.

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As mentioned previously, I would call Adult Protected Services. Let them keep a log of the issues and have them be the bad guy. Since you cannot afford a lawyer, I would try to install a NannyCam or tape the abuse by your brother. Then, report this to the Sheriff's office.

As other posters have stated, I'd go a step further and keep a journal of all observed abuse and calls that you've made to the Sheriff's office or Adult Protected Services. I would try to make friends with the police and your local APS. Therefore, they will be more responsive to your requests.

Once you get your dad in the system, then, I would place him in observation for a week, so they could determine the best treatment options for him. This would allow them to diagnose his conditions and determine the type of care he really needs.
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The advice from Safety is what I would tell-I was reported to APS by a home care nurse when I in thruth was being abused by my husband-it was dropped because there was no evidence to back up her tall tail. Call APS and report what is going on and go from there. Keep in touch we can all help each other telling our experiences to others.
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My heart aches for you. Did you call the Adult Protective Services? They will follow up unanimously and your family will not be aware of who called. In so many cases, they follow through with the clients rights. Another idea, have his physician compose a letter saying he is incompetent to make decisions for himself. Be sure to document everything in case you do end up in court.
Wishing you all the best.
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You have nothing to lose by trying to contact your father and telling him that you believe he is danger. Find a time when he is alone. If not, enjoy your own life and the people close to you. It's not worth the stress. I'm thinking of all the abuse we endured from my father while taking care of him while he had dementia. Now I am free. Eventually your father will get worse and will require professional care. If your brother is depleting his funds, they will go through hell.
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I live outside of town. My brother has instructed my dad not to have any contact with my sister or I. We are hearing all of this from his ex- girlfriend.
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I'm sorry. We also had to let it go. The only thing you can do is try to contact your father and see if he is happy in his situation and then maybe get the poa reversed again. My only question is how did your brother get poa? Where do you live?
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Thanks for the info. My sister and I were POA's, until my brother got all of that changed. I guess I'm just going to have to let this go since I can't afford to pay an attorney that kind of money.
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Very sad! Unfortunately my brother and I had power of attorney over my dad's finances because he has dementia, but it was taken away by a golddigger. She took him to every capacity assessor in the city to write a letter saying is capable of revoking/appointing a new poa. He got the letter and now this woman took everything.if your brother is solely manipulating him and doesn't have a poa, he's not legall entitled to. Did your father create a poa? The problem is that you can't force a person to have a capacity assessment to deem them incapacitated so the popa kicks in. Your only solution may be to hire a lawyer. We hired one to fight the golddigger but had to drop it because it was getting too expensive. If you have 10-25 thousand to spare, gather all your info and real, documented evidence of abuse and go to court. This is tough if you don't have financial statements or police reports. If you don't have evidence, you can't fight it. Your father has to make his decisions at this point unless you can convince him to have the capacity assessment because without that, under the law, he is still capable of making financial and care decisions.
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