6 Siblings and because I do this for a living and no else wanted to Brother and sister asked me to move into her house.. Disability from my job as live in, because I had lung Cancer, just got released for work.. I thought great timing.. Love to do the Dementia walk with her.
Brother had money for Lawyer.. A week later he said he got it.. The very next day he started being abusive with Mom and her funny Dementia habits.. And because he is about 400 pds he thought he should control Mom's thermostat and close vents where we sit all day.. I opened them and turned the heater on 74 and he freaked out and stuck his hand in my face and screamed profanity, slammed his hands down and scared Mom. Went down the hallway and punched and broke the thermostat. By the way if my mom was okay, he would have been hit with frying pan by mom. So I took her to the bedroom and had it out with him. I told him off for about five minutes, then reminded him that I'm no longer his 6 year old sister. That if he tried it again he would be very sorry. For the next 10 days he acted like an animal around me and Mom. We had it out one more time and I called my Sister. He went there and then he brought back a Budget for us. Because mom's SSI pays the house and bills. He said we get $250.00 for food a month. I get no pay. Mom has too much for any programs. I told him even Calfresh gives $192.00 a month per person. Have you ever tried to feed a Dementia parent? One day they love it, the next time is , this is gross. She also gets up and dumps it.
Anyway, the worst thing is after 50 days of his anger stewing. It's only been that long since we started this adventure he had sis bring me a letter saying I have to leave, hiring new caregiver. Of course I laughed and said forget it.
So he KIDNAPPED my mom. He had Sister tell me she was taking her to emergency for a UTI check. She did have a low grade fever 99.4 for three days. I had no money for gas and we were out of a lot of food for longer. Brother said no money too bad, he had control. Meantime I called Adult Protective Services and found out that he didn't have POA yet. He got on bank some how. 12 days later the APS still not here. NOW Brother is putting her in home cause bank said it was the only way to sell and get me out. My mom hasn't left her house in 10 years. She's very functional there. He has been abusive with all this on text to me thank God. Me begging for food and meds for Mom. No. Me saying she needs to go to the doctor and, NO. And I'm taking you off as a Beneficiary you get nothing. The first reason they gave me the GET OUT LETTER was 1. Failing to get income for myself... I'm 24/7 with mom. HE WAS MY INCOME, out of mom's account. Before he went back on the road as a long haul trucker he said feel Lucky to live HERE for nothing.
Here's the QUESTION.. I don't have money for Lawyer, He is clearly abusing his power. When the POA does go through she's dead. What can I do to help mom?? Is there anything I can do to stop His POA? Do I talk to bank?? Show texts? Doctor who may sign the papers for POA? PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE HELP ME BRING HER HOME... Also is there a way to get someone from the bank to take over or a stranger even? None of Siblings will get involved, no money.. Afraid if he gets POA they will be axed from money too.. I will gladly give it up to be with mom.. TO DO WHATS RIGHT
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