My mom cannot remember from an hour ago, yet she remembers me, her daughter. By her doctor's advise, we placed her in a Nursing home several months ago and she hates it. She is very kind and sweet but refuses to interact with the others. Always crying, she either paces the hallway or sleeps all day. I can call anytime, night or day, and the nurses tell me she's been crying and begging the nurses to take her to her daughter (me). My mom was a saint before she got AD. She was the kindest and most generous person I have every known. She was always there for me growing up and now I feel I'm not there for her. Mom only wants to be with her family. Before she went into the Nursing home, I had her with me for three months. It was hard because she constantly needed something to do. She'd walk around the house saying "what am I supposed to do, dear God, please give me something to do". She's 85 yrs old and fragile..I did't know what to give her to keep her occupied during the day...she can no longer hold any kind of conversation. I can't help but want to bring her back home because she is so sad and unhappy at the Home and she doesn't deserve to be unhappy...she never did a mean thing in her life.
I'm married and have our 25 year olf grandson living with us. He is a very high-functioning austistic. He is a great help to us. What should I do? Am I cruel having her live where she spends her day in tears? Should I bring her home until she doesn't remember me and get a part-time caregiver to live with us? I need your HELP!