I lost poa when I had 2 nervous breakdowns. Can I bring my moma home to live with me?

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chainsaw071, you need to think that your Mom is in a nursing home for a good reason. She needs a much higher level of care than one person can provide at home.

I can understand your willingness to bring Mom home. Your profile states that your Mom has Alzheimer's/Dementia. Thus Mom must be in a stage that requires a ton of help. Would you be ready to do the work for 3 full-time caregivers each and every day, with no time off, and very little sleep?

Usually what we see when we visit a nursing home for an hour or two might seem easy. What you need to do, with permission, is stay with Mom in her room for two or three days, staying overnight... then you would get the full picture of what type of care she needs. She could be awake most of the night wanting to go to the bathroom half dozen times. This is something you need to see for yourself and decide if you have the strength and patience to handle this type of care. I know I couldn't do it.

One doesn't need to have Power of Attorney to be the caregiver, but you would need to get permission from the person who does have the Power of Attorney.
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Your mother has dementia and is in a nursing home. Other relatives have POA. Is this correct?

Obviously you moma loves you, trusts you, and wanted you to act on her behalf, or she wouldn't have named you POA. Take comfort from her trust.

But things have change since that first assignment of the POA to you. Your own health/mental health has deteriorated. So other arrangements had to be made.

If the other relatives who have POA also have medical POA and are opposed to her leaving the nursing home, then, no, you cannot bring her home. They now have the responsibility of deciding what is best for her.

But even if they didn't have that legal authority, bringing mother to live with you is probably not a good idea. Visit her long and often, demonstrate your love, while letting the professionals see to her daily needs. She needs you in her life, and that can happen best and most effectively if you remain healthy and stable.

Love your moma. Be good to yourself. Support her right where she is.

(Or as we said back in my youth, Bloom where you are planted now.)
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